Fear Of Being Soft Analysis
The world today can make a person cold. Tragedies in life can make a heart grow callous and a brain critical. When we start off in this world, we believe that bad things don't happen to good people and there is more sunshine than rain. However, as we get older we learn that bad things happen for no apparent reason. We learn that people die without saying goodbye and good does not always overcome evil.
When you lose a loved one to a tragedy it's so easy to hate the world and to grow angry at the injustice of it all. After my Dad died "being soft" was not something that came naturally to me. I was angry and I was sad and instead of acknowledging those emotions I turned away from them. I was afraid of being "too soft" because I assumed that softness equated weakness.
And the problem with this assumption was by not letting myself be vulnerable and reach out for help I …show more content…
It got me through the rest of my semester and it got me started in my first internship. But emotionally, they weren't getting me anywhere. Because you know what happens when you refuse to be soft and vulnerable? You become trapped. And that callous that you've so masterfully created to protect you? Well, it locks you in. You get locked in a box of hurt and sadness. This is why I applaud someone for being what is referred to as "soft"—one who sees the world as good. One who believes you fight fire with kindness. One who doesn't allow the world to make them callous.
So why do I say there is bravery in being soft? Because being soft is hard. Being vulnerable when you feel every negative emotion possible is HARD. Someone who doesn't allow the world to make them callous, they are brave. Because they have pushed beyond the negativity and chosen to heal. It wasn't until this realization that I started to heal from the death of my Dad. It wasn't until I acknowledged that I wasn't ok and I didn't want to be sad forever that my life started to resemble something I
When you lose a loved one to a tragedy it's so easy to hate the world and to grow angry at the injustice of it all. After my Dad died "being soft" was not something that came naturally to me. I was angry and I was sad and instead of acknowledging those emotions I turned away from them. I was afraid of being "too soft" because I assumed that softness equated weakness.
And the problem with this assumption was by not letting myself be vulnerable and reach out for help I …show more content…
It got me through the rest of my semester and it got me started in my first internship. But emotionally, they weren't getting me anywhere. Because you know what happens when you refuse to be soft and vulnerable? You become trapped. And that callous that you've so masterfully created to protect you? Well, it locks you in. You get locked in a box of hurt and sadness. This is why I applaud someone for being what is referred to as "soft"—one who sees the world as good. One who believes you fight fire with kindness. One who doesn't allow the world to make them callous.
So why do I say there is bravery in being soft? Because being soft is hard. Being vulnerable when you feel every negative emotion possible is HARD. Someone who doesn't allow the world to make them callous, they are brave. Because they have pushed beyond the negativity and chosen to heal. It wasn't until this realization that I started to heal from the death of my Dad. It wasn't until I acknowledged that I wasn't ok and I didn't want to be sad forever that my life started to resemble something I