Friends with Benefits
Friends with benefits and couples
In today´s society it´s very common to hear about friends with benefits among teenagers and even adults. If you are not familiar with this term I should clarify. It consists of two friends who agree to have a physical relationship but not officially date. The important point here is to have the willingness to experiment with your sexuality whenever and with whomever you want. This common practice makes me think about what happened with old-fashion dating. Are couples out of fashion? Is hooking up the best option nowadays? How can we decide between these options? One way to decide between having a friend with benefits and having a formal couple is to compare its differences and similarities.
One difference is the commitment between lovers. Friends with benefits describe couples who are more than friends but less than committed lovers. They are not deeply involved. As a consequence they are free to date with other people. In contrast, couples make a lifetime commitment. They have an emotional bound that is sustained with dedication and perseverance. Couples don´t date with other people. For them commitment represent more than just an obligation.
Besides, while couples want to be in contact as often as possible friends with benefits prefer to contact each other from time to time. Couples try to stay in touch every day. For that reason they use different devices. For example, they use the phone to make calls or send messages, others use the computer to send e-mails, and the ones who have a long distance relationship try to use programs like Skype to stay in touch. On the other hand, friends with benefits see each other occasionally. People who are engaged in this kind of relation avoid allowing any feelings associated with love to develop. For that reason most of them prefer to see each other only once a week. The less contact, the better.
A final difference between them is that couples preserve a long-term relationship whereas
In today´s society it´s very common to hear about friends with benefits among teenagers and even adults. If you are not familiar with this term I should clarify. It consists of two friends who agree to have a physical relationship but not officially date. The important point here is to have the willingness to experiment with your sexuality whenever and with whomever you want. This common practice makes me think about what happened with old-fashion dating. Are couples out of fashion? Is hooking up the best option nowadays? How can we decide between these options? One way to decide between having a friend with benefits and having a formal couple is to compare its differences and similarities.
One difference is the commitment between lovers. Friends with benefits describe couples who are more than friends but less than committed lovers. They are not deeply involved. As a consequence they are free to date with other people. In contrast, couples make a lifetime commitment. They have an emotional bound that is sustained with dedication and perseverance. Couples don´t date with other people. For them commitment represent more than just an obligation.
Besides, while couples want to be in contact as often as possible friends with benefits prefer to contact each other from time to time. Couples try to stay in touch every day. For that reason they use different devices. For example, they use the phone to make calls or send messages, others use the computer to send e-mails, and the ones who have a long distance relationship try to use programs like Skype to stay in touch. On the other hand, friends with benefits see each other occasionally. People who are engaged in this kind of relation avoid allowing any feelings associated with love to develop. For that reason most of them prefer to see each other only once a week. The less contact, the better.
A final difference between them is that couples preserve a long-term relationship whereas