How you ever feel that we, as sons or daughter tend to repeat our parent mistakes? I have always asked myself why and I still have not have the right answer. For example my mother grew up in a very strict environment when she was a child, with my grandmother and my great grandmother coming from a Japanese Culture; my mother grew up to be a very quiet and reserve young adult. She is really kind, strict, helpful and with a very big heart. Although we had our differences when I was growing up, we get along pretty well. One of the things that stand out from her, it is her stubborn personality. Although she is a really good listener, I always feel that it has to be her way. I believe she is more like her way or the high way. I guess one could say that my mother was stubborn and knew what she wanted in life. Instead of listening to her mother and learning how to be a house wife, she pursued a college education. She was the first on her family to go to College and pursue a career as an accountant.
My mother and I have a really weird, strange relationship; I believe it is because I grew up in a different home when I was a child. I mostly recall my childhood living with my grandmother from my mother’s side. When I was a child, my mother tended to overwork and always was too busy to be or hang out with me. As a child, I saw my mother more like a discipline figure. As a teenager, my relationship with my mother changed a lot; we started talking more than usual, but I still had a lot of resentment towards her. Now as a young adult, we get along ok, but I still feel that the gap that we had from the beginning has not yet been filled.
Although I grew up separately from my parents, especially my mother, I see a lot of similarities. I tend to be stubborn in my own way. I was taught a lot from my mother and my grandmother, being the first and only child for a long time. My younger brother was born when I was 13. My mother taught me manners on