1. Extension of the Sense of Self, that is, involvement and participation. This sense of authentic participation applies to work, family, leisure and all aspects of life.
• Monica maintains the house
• She babysits for her friends whilst at work whenever necessary.
• She is willing to cook or bake something for her friend in the occasion of a party.
• She takes care of the needs of her children
• She also takes her family out to the amusement park for leisure.
2. Warm Relating of Self to others, for example, trust, empathy, genuineness, tolerance.
• Monica helps out friends who are overwhelmed with work or with preparations for events like parties.
3. Emotional Security. This includes self-acceptance, frustration tolerance and emotional control.
• Monica can easily be mistaken by those who do not know her for someone who is intimidating and angry, and she is aware of this and self-conscious about her frown lines. This is basically as a result of her aging.
• Sometimes Monica loses her temper, especially when she is tired, but she is self-conscious about the origins of her temper, that is the fatigue.
4. Habits of Realistic Perception. This involves being objective and accepting reality.
• Monica’s daughter, Jenna, has a learning disability and she (Monica) is a consistent advocate for her (Jenna). She makes sure Jenna’s needs are met, but she is realistic. She knows that Jenna will probably not go as far as her other children in whatever her chosen career is. Monica is pragmatic that way, even though it is painful for her.
5. Problem-centeredness and the development of problem-solving skills.
6. Self-objectification, that is, insight into one’s own behavior, the ability to laugh at oneself, etc.
• Monica is able to laugh about her quirk (being a perfectionist) and not to take herself seriously.
• She is able to see humor in her need for order and cleanliness … and in her tendency to forget the word she wanted to use and her