Helen Fisher
Citation:
1. Helen, Fisher. "The science of love, and the future of women." Technolog, Entertainment and Design (TED). Filmed Feb 2006; Posted Sep 2006 < http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat.html>
2. Helen, Fisher. "About the author." The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love February 4, 2004 < http://www.helenfisher.com/>
Biography:
Helen Fisher, Ph.D., is one of this country's most prominent anthropologists. Prior to becoming a Research Professor at Rutgers University, she was a Research Associate at the American Museum of Natural History in New York City. Dr. Fisher has conducted extensive research on the evolution, expression, and science of love, and her two most recent books, …show more content…
The First Sex and Anatomy of Love , were New York Times Notable Books.
Objective Summary:
Hellen Fishes talks about Romantic love in her speech.
Main characteristic of romantic Love is 'craving.' In Romantic Love, a person attaches to his partner both sexually and emotionally. From biological prospective, when dopamine drives up in the person's brain, Romantic love occurs. In that moment, dopamine makes the person so pleased and happy that he can even die if his partner wants him to do.
Subjective Evaluation:
The definition for love that Hellen proposes is much simpler and more understandable than what the great thinkers have come up with. According to Hellen, 'Romantic Love' is a heightened emotional state in which the subject feels an intense attraction for another person.
With this definition in mind, I think the feeling of love is very pleasant, but it is not something that can endure forever. The expectation of Romantic Love to last for the lifetime can be a cause of ending up in divorce among couples.
In most cases, Romantic Love can conceal faults that the other person has and can make him or her appear perfect. In other words, he/she is incapable of seeing weakness in his/ her partner when in love while brain is producing dopamine. There is nothing wrong with Romantic Love, but we'd better cautious thinking of what if brain stops producing
dopamine.
At this point, I suggest two things: love language and respect. Basically, love language will help lovers keep producing dopamine. Love language means being aware of the other person's likes and fulfill them often, such us sending flower, love letter, spending time together, kissing, etc. depending on his/her personalities. Secondly, one should give a considerable amount of respect to the other. It allows lovers to recognize that the other person is a human being with a normal collection of faults and to experience both joy and sadness. In the long run, to bond Romantic love as Hellen suggests with love language and respect on relationship is a much safer approach, I believe.
1. Helen, Fisher. "The science of love, and the future of women." Technolog, Entertainment and Design (TED). Filmed Feb 2006; Posted Sep 2006 < http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat.html>
2. Helen, Fisher. "About the author." The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love February 4, 2004 < http://www.helenfisher.com/>
Biography:
Helen Fisher, Ph.D., is one of this country's most prominent anthropologists. Prior to becoming a Research Professor at Rutgers University, she was a Research Associate at the American Museum of Natural History in New York City. Dr. Fisher has conducted extensive research on the evolution, expression, and science of love, and her two most recent books, …show more content…
The First Sex and Anatomy of Love , were New York Times Notable Books.
Objective Summary:
Hellen Fishes talks about Romantic love in her speech.
Main characteristic of romantic Love is 'craving.' In Romantic Love, a person attaches to his partner both sexually and emotionally. From biological prospective, when dopamine drives up in the person's brain, Romantic love occurs. In that moment, dopamine makes the person so pleased and happy that he can even die if his partner wants him to do.
Subjective Evaluation:
The definition for love that Hellen proposes is much simpler and more understandable than what the great thinkers have come up with. According to Hellen, 'Romantic Love' is a heightened emotional state in which the subject feels an intense attraction for another person.
With this definition in mind, I think the feeling of love is very pleasant, but it is not something that can endure forever. The expectation of Romantic Love to last for the lifetime can be a cause of ending up in divorce among couples.
In most cases, Romantic Love can conceal faults that the other person has and can make him or her appear perfect. In other words, he/she is incapable of seeing weakness in his/ her partner when in love while brain is producing dopamine. There is nothing wrong with Romantic Love, but we'd better cautious thinking of what if brain stops producing
dopamine.
At this point, I suggest two things: love language and respect. Basically, love language will help lovers keep producing dopamine. Love language means being aware of the other person's likes and fulfill them often, such us sending flower, love letter, spending time together, kissing, etc. depending on his/her personalities. Secondly, one should give a considerable amount of respect to the other. It allows lovers to recognize that the other person is a human being with a normal collection of faults and to experience both joy and sadness. In the long run, to bond Romantic love as Hellen suggests with love language and respect on relationship is a much safer approach, I believe.