Kate Chopin Quote Analysis

On Tuesday the class talked about the following quote," To seek the source, the impulse of a story is like tearing a flower to pieces for wantonness"(Kate Chopin). This quote feels like a spot on description of how a book should be read. I took this quote to mean that when reading a novel, the impulse to understand the climax or hidden meaning in the story is so great that one is practically willing do anything to find the clue that will relieve them of this desire. The noun form of wantonness means a sexually immodest or promiscuous woman. I took the flower in the quote to stand for a promiscuous woman. Upon seeing this type of woman, many men would jump to "tear"(Chopin) at this sort, to simply satisfy their impulse. Similarly when one is at loss as to what a story is trying to reveal, they will will tear apart everything to find
Every time I think I have grasped the concept of this statement, I come up with an even more frustrating idea. My basic understanding of this quote is that my parents had to obviously think about whether or not they wanted a child. So my parents did think about me before I was born. My more in depth understanding is that God himself had a decision committee where he stated that so and so will be born on this day. However if God did decide when I was to no longer be just a thought then he most likely also predetermined my entire life story and every path I took. Which leads me to believe that I have no control over my life and I am just a puppet being pulled by strings attached to the heavens. However, if this were true then the idea of choice would be obsolete. Since this is not the case and we do indeed have free choice before deciding upon any action, my previous theory of predetermination can't possibly be true. No matter the case I believe and hope that we all choose our own path and that God does not have a say in the