Making Room

“Life is a pit full of pitfalls designed by a devious deity for our conscious evolution.”
-- Wavy Gravy Linda: When we engage in the process of making room for it all, there is likely to be some things that need to let go of so that we are not cramped, and there is space for the new to flow in. This may feel like a sacrifice, but what we are letting go of may just be confining images of who we think are, and also of who we see our partner to be. It is so easy to get caught in the notion of the limited self that wants look good, feel good, and be right. An integral part of the process of making room is to be in touch with the shadow side of ourselves and to welcome it to join us. Our shadow side is those aspects of our personalities and those qualities that we haven’t yet fully come to terms with. We may want to accept our partner, but it’s easier said than done to accept our partner the way they are if we haven’t done our own work to know ourselves well. We run into difficulty in the process of trying to accept another because we can never accept in anybody what we haven’t accepted in ourselves. When there is fear about not be acceptable or even loved, fragmented pieces of ourselves become disowned. We start with the process of creating a sacred union as a single individual. When there is a union of the split off
If we’re finding we’re making our partner the creative one, the god or goddess, or ascribing other wonderful things to them, that too is in us. If you spot it, you got it. For so many of us, it’s much harder to own our golden shadow. Those gorgeous, highly evolved characteristics that we admire in other people, such as integrity, talent, and passion, that’s is in us too. It may be even scarier and more threatening to own the golden material than the dark side. Our relationship is our mirror for ALL that is