Managing Anger using I language

The Topic: My research paper will be based on Managing Anger with “I” language. Anger management is a difficult emotion to express and many of us do it poorly. We tend to attack the other person but being the one receiving someone else’s anger makes us want to get away from them and causes us to stop listening to them. Being angry is also frightening and requires real skill sets and good management to handle it well. On the handout provided to me from Professor Poster, clearly shows several suggestions to express my anger in ways that help me and promote resolution for the situation that I may be dealing with. Such as trying to regain control of yourself, talking out your anger with someone else, describing how you feel, using “I” language, staying specific, addressing the other person’s behavior not character, acknowledging multiple feelings, accepting responsibility for your anger, considering when and where to express your anger and lastly, don’t put off a difficult conversation for too long. In addition, “I” language will also help me express how I feel and why I feel. The use of “I” language shows the other person what I want and what I am thinking. It helps me speak my mind and heart. “I” language contains more honesty and is less defensive that using “you” language. Using “you” language makes the other person feel defensive and they might not listen to you clearly. As oppose to using “I” language, you are taken more seriously and the other person in whom you are upset with can know what is wrong with you and what they can do to fix the situation. As mentioned in the handout provided to me, we need to get in the habit of using a lot of “I” language when describing anger.

Rationale: Anger management plays a big role in our lives. Sometimes you might think that Anger Management is more for people who get angry at anything and they cannot control it. But in reality Anger Management is the skill we use to remain calm and not explode with anger. We all