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Meg Jay: "Why 30 is not the new 20" Notes

When Meg Jay states, “Forget about an identity crisis and get some identity capital… Do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that’s an investment in who you might want to be next.” She is implying that one should not waste their twenties finding out just who they are, but to use that time to set goals and seek out to accomplish them.

“Dating in my twenties was like musical chairs, everyone was running around and having fun” A part in which Meg starts to explain how during one's twenties we are jumping from person to person in romantic relationships. Being a male in my 20 twenties I can agree to it being fun, but maybe unhealthy for future relationships. Which brings me to, “But then sometime around thirty it was like the music had turned off.” Playing musical chairs in relation to relationships may be fun but just because it is fun does not mean all of us are doing it. Eventually others start to settle down and find life partners. The ones who had fun start to notice and rush companionship ending up settling for less. “Feels like I only married my husband because he was the closest chair to me around 30.”

“Journalist coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like ‘twixters’ and ‘kidadults’… As a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.” Meg feels in society today twentysomethings are viewed as kids because of the lack of responsibility with descriptive nicknames. She implies that the current generation does not believe a person has fully grown until they have experienced the things that come with age, usually with that being around 30.

In Meg Jay quote, “when you at a twentysomething on the head and you say, “you have ten extra years to start your life… You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition.” She states that if people tell someone in their twenties that they have an extra ten years to get up and do something with their life, they are

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