Moving Through Experience

Throughout the years of history, humans have gone through various experiences. Everyone has to go through different types of experiences everyday. The experience could either have to do with something mentally, physically, or even at home, work, marriage, school, church, or even rehabilitation.Whether it was a positive or a negative experience, people still go through it. There are two results that come with experiences, it was either a challenge failed or a challenge achieved successfully. Despite the positivity or negativity of the experience, there is always something to learn from. Whatever the experience may be, rather challenging or not, one can learn and give advice to others who are going through the same situation.
Everyday people
go through a challenging experience whether they know it is coming or not. Challenging experiences give you a choice of either failing or passing as said before. As for myself, I have been through many experiences that either was challenging or not. Now-a-days young people of this generation struggle with a lot of unnecessary subjects that they should not be struggling with because it is an easy decision and they are the ones who chose for themselves. The generation that I live in are full with teens who struggle with who they are and lose themselves to the world. For instance, a common thing that many of teens struggle with now is virginity. Virginity does not only go for females, but males also. As for myself, I can say that I have struggled with this as well. Remaining a virgin is uncommon of this generation, in fact, most of my friends are not virgins, sadly. The reason that this is sad is because they have lost their identity within themselves and have given it up to the world. But, shall it be said, me being a christian, yes I do believe in marriage before sex and I do believe that this will be fulfilled in my life.
My peers constantly bug me saying “When are you going to give it up? Don’t you wanna feel like a woman? What are you waiting for?”. With all honesty, I have a boyfriend (he is not a virgin), but we have been together for a few years and these questions are thought in my head constantly and I do question myself in a negative way towards this subject sometimes. I challenge myself every time I am with my significant other. Once, my boyfriend and I were at his house eating, listening to music, telling jokes, and we all know one step may lead to another. We ended up arguing for an hour because he wanted to proceed further but I refused. After the arguing was over, I went back home and really took the time to evaluate myself as a person. I began to think i was overreacting towards the whole thing, but then I remembered who I was as a person. I thought “I am different, I’m not a cheap girl, I will not give myself up that easily because my parents raised me to have ethics and standards, when the time is right I will be ready and I don’t care what anybody thinks, if they don’t respect it, then they will find someone who is cheap.” We did not talk for two days, and he called me and said he wanted to meet up again to talk. When we met up, I was so mad I explained to him exactly what I was thinking, but more vehemently. And in return he told me he respects me way to much to leave because I would not give him my virginity, he was sorry for what had happened and for the way he acted. We are still together, and this experience helped me realize even more who I am as a person. I am so proud of myself, I feel more than a “woman” know that I have not given it up yet, and I’m not ashamed to be one of the few left in this generation. This experience was something that I have passed successfully even though I will still experience this in the future until my goal is reached.
Recently, a challenge was reached that had taught a lesson to myself. I currently was employed at a Burger King fast food restaurant in upstate Cortlandt, New York. Having no experience with a job before, this was somewhere to commence. At frist, the thought that was given to my mother from me was that I did not want to work at Burger King as a first experience job because its seems unorganized and the people there are usually grumpy. That was always a thought from myself about fast food restaurant employees and employers, because usually when food is brought at these places the facial expression and ambiance is always hectic and negative. But, while I was in the process of being employed there, so much blockage was happening. For instance, the interview dates kept changing because the person to interview me was either busy or I could not make it that day, they constantly asked for so many unnecessary paperwork and then told me they were not needed when I came for training, also for the uniform delivery was 2 weeks late because they never placed the order, and on top of that the other people around me had a negative attitude towards me and kept “grilling” me except for a few people that actually wanted to be acquainted with me. In fact, not only did this affect myself, but also my mother and father. They spent so much money on me to go to the restaurant almost everyday for a a month and a few weeks, just for me to quit. Happily, I ended up quitting 1 week into the job. This experience helped me leam to trust my instincts, and also that not everything is worth wasting time on if you are not dedicated to it in the first place.
As for the future, there will be many experience that will be hard to go through.
Nobody knows what the future will hold for them especially if they cannot manage on their own and have been dependent on other people. An experience many will have to go through is the beginning of starting an independent life. For example, finding one’s own housing. As exciting as it sounds, this is something that can cause a lot of stress and weigh you down as well. As for my parents, they did not have such a hassle to find a place because they took it into their own hands and compromised with each other and planned a lot of issues out. As for other, when finding one’s own place to live,there are a lot of aspects you must take into concern. For example, the area. Nobody wants to live in an area where its full of negativity, the atmosphere is polluted, the people have bad attitude, there is not any diversity, and if one does want to live in a place like that, then that also
okay.
However, back to the positivity.
The advice given is to look for a place that is comfortable and compliments ones lifestyle. Not only does the atmosphere have to be at your satisfaction level but also the place itself. What to look for when one finds their ideal place, look for safety. Perhaps a fire happens, make sure you have more than one exit. Check the amount of space, for instance, you want kids, you can not have a small place and want kids, make sure you have enough room for them to not be too crowded. As for the cleanliness, always look or rodents or insects, especially on the visible floors or inside cabinets and under floor rugs. This is always important because there are constant outbreaks of bed bugs and this is a serious conflict when experiencing finding a place to live. Financially, take your time. There are places that are very expensive and are not in the field of your annual income. Always be prepared and have a plan on the way to pay mortgage, water bills, electrical bills, cable bills, all sorts of bills in the book. If one does not pay for these because the housing is too expensive, then you have to start all over and find another place to live. Keep in mind that nobody can get in the way of finding a good place to live but oneself. If one finds a place they like but can not live up to the expenses, it is their fault. As for the remaining, find a place that not only you may like but what your significant other may like as well. If one has a place they
only like, they may not realize how their partner may feel. This experience has many listings to come with, but the main advice is find a place to reach ones satisfactory levels.
Overall, there truly are experiences that people do go through and may not notice they are going through it unless they take deep thought and think about it themselves. As said before, an experience can be positive or negative but a lesson is always taught and it is up to the person to learn from it and apply it to their own life. As for myself, I have been through experiences that I learned from and took as a food of thought to prepare myself for the next experience. It does not matter what type of experience it is because the fact of the matter is that you have to go through it either way. One should always remember, the experience you go through does not necessarily define you, but what one learns and the way they apply it to their life is does.