“What happens to parents when space is limited in the heart and homes of their children?
Old-age homes have become popular in Bangladesh. The traditional structure of a family of Bangladesh is turning into a fast, racy lifestyle, where ambitious youth are discarding the old values and in turn, their parents.
The parents are forced to live out their old age alone. An old man, once the head of the family is now a subdued member of a house of strangers. The woman who once happily cooked three meals a day is now forbidden from entering the community kitchen. There are no phones in the old-age center, and the residents know no one will ask for them. The wrinkles on their faces are as pronounced as the pains of being discarded. The bitter realization that we are all dispensable comes into focus. They are nearing the ends of their lives with unfinished dreams and many unanswered questions.
In Dhaka's largest old-age home, BOSHIPUK, the residents ask this question everyday: how after a lifetime of striving to establish individual ownership and entitlement, they are now fumbling to cope with this new involuntary communal life? Dhaka is the fastest-growing megacity on the planet, and the landscape of the traditional Bengali family is being rapidly erased. Respect for elders is being washed out.” (Full Frame: Death or Dream, N.D.)
This is all about my research. Children are becoming too busy with their lives and they want to ignore their responsibilities towards their parents. They want to escape from their due responsibilities and trying to choose the old homes as an alternative at which they can send their parents. By adopting this western culture we will achieve nothing but regret ourselves one day.
Hasan (2010) claimed that as the young and working class of our society, every single day we are announcing that we are working to create a better future and society for our next generation. But we ignore the people who have created the present, who contributed
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