Pamela Mayer's Two Truths About Lying

In the video, Pamela Mayer mention two truths about lying. The first truth about lying was that it is a cooperative act. According to Mayer, “no one can lie to you without your approval. The liar and the recipient participate in a fabric of mythmaking together. A lie does not have power by its utterance–its power lies in someone agreeing to believe the lie” (2010, pg. 22). In my opinion, Pamela is definitely correct, the only way someone can lie to us is if we allowed them, but if do not allow them than we would not get lie. Moreover, the second truth about lying is that people lie to cover up problems in their lives. People feel that lying will help them feel protected. However, the consequences of lying are bad, because you will no longer feel conferrable within yourself and the other person whom you lied to. Consequently, the truths about lying are hard to believe, but are the absolute truth.
Agreeing to the truth has never meant to be easy for most people. Although there are many different truths about lying, one of the truths which I agree with the most is that lying is definitely a cooperative act. Additionally, “lying is part of our culture and history” (Meyer, 2010). We cannot prevent someone
from lying to us, because it happens spontaneously. On the other hand, lies have helped us in many ways, such as to get to the truth both in and out of law enforcement. The truth about lying which I do not agree as much would be lying is a way to protect ourselves. I believe that lying is not just a way to protect ourselves, but to also relief some our problems that we may encounter in our lives. In conclusion, agreeing to the truth about lying is not easy, nut neither impossible.
Detecting deception is not as hard as it seems just as long as you know some of the patterns.
One out of the two patterns Pamela mention in the video when spotting deception was speech. She says that liars tend to make a non-contracted denial and distance themselves from the subject using language as a tool. The second pattern in spotting deception is body language. According to Meyer (2010), “the first rule in deception detection is to watch the face” (Pg. 47). The eyes cannot be contracted, so when someone is lying it is just a matter of focusing in the eyes. Furthermore, when a person lies their emotions change drastically to mostly sad or mad. All in all, lying is something that mostly every does on a daily basis, so there is nothing to worry
about.