In a perfect world people would put others before themselves.
However, that is not the case. Constantly putting others happiness in front of your own has many flaws. Ideally if this were a perfect world, you could focus on others happiness because you would have someone else to focus on your happiness. The flaw in this is, how would others know what truly makes you happy? Maybe you could talk about what makes you happy. Talking or communicating what brings you happiness, will associate some form of guilt; the reason being, because you should be focusing on everyone else’s needs and wants to make them happy. If you start conversing about your needs or wants that will make you happy, that would be considered the selfish
trap. Maybe we should focus on our own needs and nobody else’s? This theory has flaws as well. The flaw in this is we would get so caught up in our own needs that people would tend to stay to themselves. Parts of people’s needs are needing one another. If we focused on our own needs, we wouldn’t care about other people. In the end, everyone would be perceived as selfish and uncaring. Needless to say one could spend all of their energy on making others happy but we would get more personal satisfaction if there was something in exchange. If we could give something to someone to fulfill their needs in exchange for own personal happiness there would always be an even exchange. Or just an exchange for something that will make both parties involved happy, that would be an almost perfect world. There can’t always be something on hand for us to offer, to complete the cycle of happiness. We will always try to achieve happiness for everyone but will still have our own personal needs, which comes full circle to us having to sometimes be just a little bit selfish. What is our true cost of complete happiness?