Personal Narrative: One Size Breaks All
I feel that when it comes to effective communication and disciplining the phrase “one size fits all” is a false statement. Baumrind did not put into account a child’s individuality, personality, and temperament when it came to her parenting styles (Berger, 2016, p. 212). I am answering these questions based on my experience with my own children’s individuality. I picked scenario #4. I would sit down next to my 11-year old and put my arm around him and say, “I was wondering why I have not heard any beautiful music fill the house today.” I would ask him as to why he was not practicing the piano before free time. That puts the ball in his court in a nice way and makes him accountable. Depending on his answer, would depend on my response.
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My husband and I have a set rules at our home and breaking curfew were a rule that had strict consequences. We both offer no idle threats because we keep our word, our examples speak louder than any lecture, make sure the punishment fits the crime, your child needs to be accountable but also feel loved. In this case, I would greet my daughter with a hug and be glad she was home safe. I would listen, but when her excuse is “I lost track of time (again),” for me, that means it is time to raise the bar of punishment. That excuse would not stand in our home. I would offer her a choice of either moving her current curfew to an hour earlier for that month or lose all car privileges for 1 week. The child would have no say in this punishment because she would know the consequences when the law was set forth. Baumrind would call this authoritarian parenting with clear rules, high standards, letter of the law, with strict punishment, usually physical (Berger, 2016, p. 211). I think Baumrind would discuss the matter openly with two-way communication, then encourage her to be responsible for keeping track of the time, would forgive her (again) and there would most likely be no severe punishment made (Berger, 2016, p. 211). My daughter broke curfew one time and that was the only
My husband and I have a set rules at our home and breaking curfew were a rule that had strict consequences. We both offer no idle threats because we keep our word, our examples speak louder than any lecture, make sure the punishment fits the crime, your child needs to be accountable but also feel loved. In this case, I would greet my daughter with a hug and be glad she was home safe. I would listen, but when her excuse is “I lost track of time (again),” for me, that means it is time to raise the bar of punishment. That excuse would not stand in our home. I would offer her a choice of either moving her current curfew to an hour earlier for that month or lose all car privileges for 1 week. The child would have no say in this punishment because she would know the consequences when the law was set forth. Baumrind would call this authoritarian parenting with clear rules, high standards, letter of the law, with strict punishment, usually physical (Berger, 2016, p. 211). I think Baumrind would discuss the matter openly with two-way communication, then encourage her to be responsible for keeping track of the time, would forgive her (again) and there would most likely be no severe punishment made (Berger, 2016, p. 211). My daughter broke curfew one time and that was the only