Perspectives on Love
Perspectives on Love
Love and relationships are controversial topics in which people encounter on a daily basis. They are also topics that are viewed by many different people, from different perspectives. Three authors write on the topic of love; Katherine Anne Porter in “Marriage is Belonging”, June Callwood in “Forget Prince Charming” and Robertson Davies in “The Pleasures of Love”. Porter argues that both partners must surrender their freedom and social life in order to obtain a steady relationship. She argues this because one must take time out of their social life in order to put time and effort into a relationship. Whereas, Callwood argues that long term relationships are unlike fairy tales and therefore require balance and compromise. Callwood argues this because individuals need to work at their relationship in order for their love to continue to thrive. Lastly, Davies argues when communication and understanding is abundant in a relationship, love is less likely to die. Davies argues this because communication is crucial in respect to discovering the traits and reasoning that brought them together. Individual’s perspectives on love and how to find a lifelong partner differ greatly. Katherine Anne Porter, the author of “Marriage is Belonging”, writes that one must sacrifice their independence in order to “…share another life, the life in fact presumably dearest to them” (Porter 56). Being united with someone means that one must always be loyal, honest and generous towards their partner. Porter says that these characteristics as well as reducing the importance of a social life “are required for two people to go on growing together and in the same direction” (Porter58). She uses this quote to explain that one must give up partial freedom so that time and effort can be put into the beginning of their new, shared life. As a result of surrendering one’s social life for a significant other, in return one will be compensated with a permanent place to belong.
Love and relationships are controversial topics in which people encounter on a daily basis. They are also topics that are viewed by many different people, from different perspectives. Three authors write on the topic of love; Katherine Anne Porter in “Marriage is Belonging”, June Callwood in “Forget Prince Charming” and Robertson Davies in “The Pleasures of Love”. Porter argues that both partners must surrender their freedom and social life in order to obtain a steady relationship. She argues this because one must take time out of their social life in order to put time and effort into a relationship. Whereas, Callwood argues that long term relationships are unlike fairy tales and therefore require balance and compromise. Callwood argues this because individuals need to work at their relationship in order for their love to continue to thrive. Lastly, Davies argues when communication and understanding is abundant in a relationship, love is less likely to die. Davies argues this because communication is crucial in respect to discovering the traits and reasoning that brought them together. Individual’s perspectives on love and how to find a lifelong partner differ greatly. Katherine Anne Porter, the author of “Marriage is Belonging”, writes that one must sacrifice their independence in order to “…share another life, the life in fact presumably dearest to them” (Porter 56). Being united with someone means that one must always be loyal, honest and generous towards their partner. Porter says that these characteristics as well as reducing the importance of a social life “are required for two people to go on growing together and in the same direction” (Porter58). She uses this quote to explain that one must give up partial freedom so that time and effort can be put into the beginning of their new, shared life. As a result of surrendering one’s social life for a significant other, in return one will be compensated with a permanent place to belong.
Bibliography: Artichuk, Francine. Echoes 12: fiction, media, and non-fiction. Don Mills: Oxford University Press, 2002. Print. * Forget Prince Charming by June Callwood Kellow, Brian, and John Krisak. Essays: thought and style. Scarborough, Ont.: Prentice-Hall Canada, 1987. Print * The Pleasures of Love by Richard Davies * Marriage is Belonging by Katherine Anne Porter