Practical Book Review One: Why Don't We Listen Better
Practical Book Review One:
Why Don’t We Listen Better
Presented to
Prof. Max Mills, M.Div, PH.D
Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary
Lynchburg, VA
In Partial Fulfillment
Of The Requirements For The Course
PACO 500 Introduction to Pastoral Counseling
By
Marcus A. Banks-Bey
February 12, 2012
Petersen, James C. 2011. Why Don’t We Listen Better? Communicating and Connecting in Relationships. Portland, OR: Petersen Publications.
HEY!
My Summary
Petersen (2011) provides a practical guide for readers who are interested in increasing their ability to communicate amongst others in a multitude of settings which include but are not limited to business, familial, and romantic. Within this book, Petersen presents common, yet overseen communication errors which many individuals become conflicted with. With these common errors, Petersen then provides his view on how to overcome particular barriers which prohibit positive growth amongst those who seek to effectively communicate with one another. Petersen helps the reader understand that what results in a breakdown of communication is in part, due to the fact that the individuals involved in the process, fail to see the emotion behind what is being verbalized. This emotion however becomes translated as an attack, or defense to an attack which is perceived as one in the same thing (p.108). The theories which Petersen has developed, thus presents as a means to introduce, and illustrate common communication pitfalls begins with the notion of what he calls “The Flat Brain Theory of Emotions” (p. 10). I translated this theory to be a means of understanding the common errors which take place when an individual’s combined thoughts, and emotions, fail to convey the message which they are attempting to impart upon whom they are communicating. The messages within the brain, get construed with the emotions which are give us sensations at the pit of
Why Don’t We Listen Better
Presented to
Prof. Max Mills, M.Div, PH.D
Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary
Lynchburg, VA
In Partial Fulfillment
Of The Requirements For The Course
PACO 500 Introduction to Pastoral Counseling
By
Marcus A. Banks-Bey
February 12, 2012
Petersen, James C. 2011. Why Don’t We Listen Better? Communicating and Connecting in Relationships. Portland, OR: Petersen Publications.
HEY!
My Summary
Petersen (2011) provides a practical guide for readers who are interested in increasing their ability to communicate amongst others in a multitude of settings which include but are not limited to business, familial, and romantic. Within this book, Petersen presents common, yet overseen communication errors which many individuals become conflicted with. With these common errors, Petersen then provides his view on how to overcome particular barriers which prohibit positive growth amongst those who seek to effectively communicate with one another. Petersen helps the reader understand that what results in a breakdown of communication is in part, due to the fact that the individuals involved in the process, fail to see the emotion behind what is being verbalized. This emotion however becomes translated as an attack, or defense to an attack which is perceived as one in the same thing (p.108). The theories which Petersen has developed, thus presents as a means to introduce, and illustrate common communication pitfalls begins with the notion of what he calls “The Flat Brain Theory of Emotions” (p. 10). I translated this theory to be a means of understanding the common errors which take place when an individual’s combined thoughts, and emotions, fail to convey the message which they are attempting to impart upon whom they are communicating. The messages within the brain, get construed with the emotions which are give us sensations at the pit of