Secure Attachment
PUT YOUR SEATBELT ON, CONNECT SAFELY... Although it is not yet entirely proven, it is assumed that the first connection between the mother and the baby was established before the birth. For this reason, the fact that the mother accepts and embraces the changes in her body and conveys positive feeling to the unborn baby is the basis of bond between the mother and the baby. For example, it is frequently mentioned that it is very important in terms of secure attachment for the mother to physically feel the baby by scrubbing her belly.
Relationship between mother and baby becomes more important after childbirth. When the baby is born, first meets his/her mother and the baby’s perception of the world is based on the interaction between mother and child. …show more content…
Fine, what do we mean exactly with the term of ‘secure attachment’?
In order to ensure a secure attachment, it is necessary for the mother (or caregiver) to be available, sensitive to baby’s reactions and needs, responsive to the baby’s behaviors and to make a connection with the baby. Of course, there may be occasional breaks or ruptures on the communication. The mother’s ability to repair the relationship after deterioration constitutes the foundation of the secure attachment.
The most critical point here is that the mother is less affected by this situation than the child. Because anxious mothers pass anxiety to their children most of the time. However the mother perceives the problem, it is more likely than the child perceives the same way. In fact, the perception of the mother about the world defines the perception of the
child.
If we consider the mother as a harbor, the child is both safe at the harbor and has the courage to explore the surroundings by getting away from the harbor. The baby is sure that his/her mother is waiting and that she/he can go back when encountered a problem. For example, in adaptation process to nursery or preschool, a child having a secure bond with her/his mother does not worry when the mother leaves because he/she is sure that she will come back based on the secure bond with her mother. Thus, he/she does not feel abandoned and the adaptation process is easier for children making a secure bond than the children who don’t have this connection with their parents.
Relationship between mother and baby becomes more important after childbirth. When the baby is born, first meets his/her mother and the baby’s perception of the world is based on the interaction between mother and child. …show more content…
Fine, what do we mean exactly with the term of ‘secure attachment’?
In order to ensure a secure attachment, it is necessary for the mother (or caregiver) to be available, sensitive to baby’s reactions and needs, responsive to the baby’s behaviors and to make a connection with the baby. Of course, there may be occasional breaks or ruptures on the communication. The mother’s ability to repair the relationship after deterioration constitutes the foundation of the secure attachment.
The most critical point here is that the mother is less affected by this situation than the child. Because anxious mothers pass anxiety to their children most of the time. However the mother perceives the problem, it is more likely than the child perceives the same way. In fact, the perception of the mother about the world defines the perception of the
child.
If we consider the mother as a harbor, the child is both safe at the harbor and has the courage to explore the surroundings by getting away from the harbor. The baby is sure that his/her mother is waiting and that she/he can go back when encountered a problem. For example, in adaptation process to nursery or preschool, a child having a secure bond with her/his mother does not worry when the mother leaves because he/she is sure that she will come back based on the secure bond with her mother. Thus, he/she does not feel abandoned and the adaptation process is easier for children making a secure bond than the children who don’t have this connection with their parents.