Summary Of The Love Of My Life By T. Coraghessan Boyle
more attention to him and Beina. Beina’s marriage was not what Cheng had in mind for her. He did not expect her to enjoy it or become attached. Cheng was upset because Beina was not listening to him. He tried to use his power to make her divorce him, but her attention and focus moved to another man in her life. Cheng thought he wanted his niece to get married, but he realizes that he misses the control that he had over her. He realizes that “when Beina still refuses to divorce her husband and insists on his goodness and the inviolability of their marriage vows, her uncle is flabbergasted by her unselfish behavior” (“Bridegroom Analysis”). At this point, Cheng realized he was losing control and had no say in what Beina would be doing anymore.
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Chengs plan was to “keep Beina and Baowen together so he would look good” (“Bridegroom Themes”). However, Cheng realized that this was not what he wanted. This is because Beina stopped being dependent on him and became dependent on Baowen. Tobias states that the story ends with “China’s difficulties about adjusting to the influences in America.” This is Tobias’ way of saying that Beina is beginning to fend for herself. Beina is so used to having someone to do everything for her. Now that she is without her uncle and her husband, she is like a lost puppy. Beina is torn between her uncle and her new husband. Both men have Beina under their wing; however, as long as she stays married to Baowen, her uncle Cheng will slowly begin to boot her out of his life.
Ha Jin demonstrates how a woman can become dependent on a dominant man in her life. This man does not have to be her other half. Ha Jin had the woman become dependent on her uncle, who is her father father figure in life. In the short story “Love in L.A.” by Dagoberto Gilb, the dominancy is formed in a matter of minutes. Gilb uses a car accident to demonstrate how the male is dominant over the female no matter what the situation may be.
Dagoberto Gilb started writing the short story “Love in L.A.” later on in his life. After his career as a construction worker, Gilb took time off to focus on his writing career. During this time he wrote the short story “Love in L.A.” When Gilb writes, he likes to focus on a romantic tragedy theme. This means that in his writings he has some sort of tragedy that occurs with the end result being some sort of a romantic outcome.
“Love in L.A.” is about a man named Jake. Jake gets into a head on car accident in L.A. The accident was clearly his fault because he was not paying attention to the stop lights or the oncoming traffic. Instead of being truthful to the woman, Mariana, he lies about everything. He gave Mariana a fake phone number, a fake insurance company, and a fake name. He barely let the lady speak. All he tried to do was flirt with Mariana. Throughout the whole story Jake had complete control over the whole situation. This was his way of becoming the dominant in their relationship.
“Love in L.A.” shows how a man can easily become dominant over a woman that he does not even know. Jake began to become dominant over Mariana immediately after the car accident. As soon as Jake hit Mariana, he jumped out of the car. He immediately introduced himself and “they shook hands like she’d never done it before in her life” (44). This shows that Jake gave Mariana absolutely no time to comprehend what had just happened. Instead of giving her time to take in what had just happened he just grabbed her hand and shook it. This shows that Jake wants to do everything at his own convenience. Jake must have everything go his way. According to Steinbach, “Jake is consumed with himself and with gaining more pleasure for himself.” This implies that Jake is a selfish man who only worries about his needs. This explains why Jake must always be the dominant person. Being the dominant allows him to do whatever he wants to do in order to meet his needs. Jake “clearly sees himself as a ladies man and uses every opportunity to collect them” (Steinbach). This implies that Jake will use any circumstance no matter how bad it is to try and get with a girl. If the conflict is not directly hurting him, he will swoop in and collect any woman that will have him. This is just part of his need to be the dominant in every relationship he has. Steinbach states that “instead of asking the lady if she was okay he flirted with her by saying ‘so, how you doin?’” This is a prime example of how Jake will use any time he gets, no matter what is happening to flirt. This shows Jake being dominant over Mariana because it is showing how he picks and chooses what they will do or talk about. In “The Bridegroom” and “Love in L.A.,” the men were both dominant over the women even though it was not through a romantic relationship. “The Bridegroom” focused on a woman becoming dependent on her father figure in her life. “Love in L.A.”focused on a man becoming dominant over a woman he just met minutes ago. Both of these stories demonstrated two totally different ways of how a woman can become dependent on a dominant man. In the short story “The Love of My Life, by T. Coraghessan Boyle, the dominancy is formed throughout the years of a relationship. Boyle uses traumatic events to show how the male is dominant over the female no matter what the situation may be. T.
Coraghessan Boyle wrote the short story, “The Love of My Life” at the start of his college education. Boyle is a creative short story writer. He went to the University of Southern California since 1978 and “his work included 19 books of fiction, that have been translated into more than two dozen foreign languages (“Science of Sex”). “The Love of My Life” is a short story about a boy named Jeremy and his girlfriend China. Jeremy and China are highschool sweethearts. Ever since they started dating they have been attached at the hip. They went hiking together, they went on vacations together, and they spent every moment together. Jake is really dominant in his and China’s relationship. He only wants to do what he wants to do. The dominancy issue did not bother China; therefore she was happy with the way things were …show more content…
going.
In the middle of the story things began to change. One day, China began throwing up and had no idea as to why. She then had the thought cross her mind that she may be pregnant. She took the test and soon discovered that her instincts were correct. She immediately told Jeremy the news because if she would have waited to tell him he would become really upset. After she told him he said that there was no way that they were keeping it. Jeremy demanded that she must get an abortion; however, China put her foot down and said no way. They argued back and forth about it for what seemed like forever. Jeremy then realized that getting an abortion was a bad idea because people would know. He then decided to have China hide the pregnancy. One stormy afternoon, China’s water broke. She immediately called Jeremy and had him meet her at an isolated hotel. There, China delivered the baby. Jeremy took the baby and placed it in a garbage bag. He then took the garbage bag and placed it inside the dumpster. Jeremy and China got caught for what they have done. Jeremy spent time in prison. His parents and China visited him and thought his punishment was uncalled for. This just goes to show how dependent China is on Jeremy. No matter what he does China will always go running back to him. T.
Coraghessan Boyle demonstrates male dominancy in his short story “The Love of My Life.” “He drove her car, slept on the couch in the family room at her parents’ house, played tennis and watched football with her father on the big, thirty-six-inch TV in the kitchen” (345). This quote emphasizes that he, Jeremy, did everything. Boyle stresses this by only saying things that Jeremy did with China’s family. Nowhere in the short story does Boyle mention things that China does with Jeremy’s family or by herself. This implies that China did things with Jeremy and only Jeremy. “‘You’ve got to get rid of it,’ he told her in the motel room that had become a prison” (349). This quote shows that Jeremy is really demanding. By saying the words “you’ve got to” shows that Jeremy does not care about China’s input. He does not want the baby to be born so that is the way he thinks it should be. Jeremy wants the baby aborted, China does not. Boyle uses the phrase “in the motel room that had become a prison” to show that China is not happy at this point of conversation. That phrase shows that China feels trapped and feels that there is no way to escape the situation. However, China actually got her way for once. After Jeremy took a step back, he realized that getting an abortion would not be the best idea. He did not want to risk the chance of anyone finding out about their current situation. Jeremy and China then decided that they would just carry the baby to full term. Jeremy and China
continued to argue about the situation. “What are you going to do, keep it? Huh? Just show up for English 101 with a baby on your lap and say ‘Hi, I’m the Virgin Mary’”(349). This is really a powerful quote. At this point Jeremy is taking his dominant power to a whole other level. He is trying to get China to do things his way by making fun of her. Jeremy knows that if he talks to China negatively he will get her to abide by his rules. China falls into Jeremy’s trap and does what he wants to do. He knows that whenever he acts this way he will get what he wants in return. China does not care that she is dependent on her boyfriend. She also does not care that Jeremy is the dominant in their relationship. China has come accustomed to being the dependent person in her and Jeremy’s relationship. Valentine’s Day is celebrated on February 14th each year. This is a day where couples take a day, a night, or a weekend to themselves.They take this time to bond with one another. Couples also use Valentine’s Day as a day to evaluate their relationship and discuss the strengths and weaknesses that each of them hold for their relationship. They may also address issues such as dominance. If one person in the relationship feels the other is too dominant or controlling over the other, he or she may bring that topic up.
Chengs plan was to “keep Beina and Baowen together so he would look good” (“Bridegroom Themes”). However, Cheng realized that this was not what he wanted. This is because Beina stopped being dependent on him and became dependent on Baowen. Tobias states that the story ends with “China’s difficulties about adjusting to the influences in America.” This is Tobias’ way of saying that Beina is beginning to fend for herself. Beina is so used to having someone to do everything for her. Now that she is without her uncle and her husband, she is like a lost puppy. Beina is torn between her uncle and her new husband. Both men have Beina under their wing; however, as long as she stays married to Baowen, her uncle Cheng will slowly begin to boot her out of his life.
Ha Jin demonstrates how a woman can become dependent on a dominant man in her life. This man does not have to be her other half. Ha Jin had the woman become dependent on her uncle, who is her father father figure in life. In the short story “Love in L.A.” by Dagoberto Gilb, the dominancy is formed in a matter of minutes. Gilb uses a car accident to demonstrate how the male is dominant over the female no matter what the situation may be.
Dagoberto Gilb started writing the short story “Love in L.A.” later on in his life. After his career as a construction worker, Gilb took time off to focus on his writing career. During this time he wrote the short story “Love in L.A.” When Gilb writes, he likes to focus on a romantic tragedy theme. This means that in his writings he has some sort of tragedy that occurs with the end result being some sort of a romantic outcome.
“Love in L.A.” is about a man named Jake. Jake gets into a head on car accident in L.A. The accident was clearly his fault because he was not paying attention to the stop lights or the oncoming traffic. Instead of being truthful to the woman, Mariana, he lies about everything. He gave Mariana a fake phone number, a fake insurance company, and a fake name. He barely let the lady speak. All he tried to do was flirt with Mariana. Throughout the whole story Jake had complete control over the whole situation. This was his way of becoming the dominant in their relationship.
“Love in L.A.” shows how a man can easily become dominant over a woman that he does not even know. Jake began to become dominant over Mariana immediately after the car accident. As soon as Jake hit Mariana, he jumped out of the car. He immediately introduced himself and “they shook hands like she’d never done it before in her life” (44). This shows that Jake gave Mariana absolutely no time to comprehend what had just happened. Instead of giving her time to take in what had just happened he just grabbed her hand and shook it. This shows that Jake wants to do everything at his own convenience. Jake must have everything go his way. According to Steinbach, “Jake is consumed with himself and with gaining more pleasure for himself.” This implies that Jake is a selfish man who only worries about his needs. This explains why Jake must always be the dominant person. Being the dominant allows him to do whatever he wants to do in order to meet his needs. Jake “clearly sees himself as a ladies man and uses every opportunity to collect them” (Steinbach). This implies that Jake will use any circumstance no matter how bad it is to try and get with a girl. If the conflict is not directly hurting him, he will swoop in and collect any woman that will have him. This is just part of his need to be the dominant in every relationship he has. Steinbach states that “instead of asking the lady if she was okay he flirted with her by saying ‘so, how you doin?’” This is a prime example of how Jake will use any time he gets, no matter what is happening to flirt. This shows Jake being dominant over Mariana because it is showing how he picks and chooses what they will do or talk about. In “The Bridegroom” and “Love in L.A.,” the men were both dominant over the women even though it was not through a romantic relationship. “The Bridegroom” focused on a woman becoming dependent on her father figure in her life. “Love in L.A.”focused on a man becoming dominant over a woman he just met minutes ago. Both of these stories demonstrated two totally different ways of how a woman can become dependent on a dominant man. In the short story “The Love of My Life, by T. Coraghessan Boyle, the dominancy is formed throughout the years of a relationship. Boyle uses traumatic events to show how the male is dominant over the female no matter what the situation may be. T.
Coraghessan Boyle wrote the short story, “The Love of My Life” at the start of his college education. Boyle is a creative short story writer. He went to the University of Southern California since 1978 and “his work included 19 books of fiction, that have been translated into more than two dozen foreign languages (“Science of Sex”). “The Love of My Life” is a short story about a boy named Jeremy and his girlfriend China. Jeremy and China are highschool sweethearts. Ever since they started dating they have been attached at the hip. They went hiking together, they went on vacations together, and they spent every moment together. Jake is really dominant in his and China’s relationship. He only wants to do what he wants to do. The dominancy issue did not bother China; therefore she was happy with the way things were …show more content…
going.
In the middle of the story things began to change. One day, China began throwing up and had no idea as to why. She then had the thought cross her mind that she may be pregnant. She took the test and soon discovered that her instincts were correct. She immediately told Jeremy the news because if she would have waited to tell him he would become really upset. After she told him he said that there was no way that they were keeping it. Jeremy demanded that she must get an abortion; however, China put her foot down and said no way. They argued back and forth about it for what seemed like forever. Jeremy then realized that getting an abortion was a bad idea because people would know. He then decided to have China hide the pregnancy. One stormy afternoon, China’s water broke. She immediately called Jeremy and had him meet her at an isolated hotel. There, China delivered the baby. Jeremy took the baby and placed it in a garbage bag. He then took the garbage bag and placed it inside the dumpster. Jeremy and China got caught for what they have done. Jeremy spent time in prison. His parents and China visited him and thought his punishment was uncalled for. This just goes to show how dependent China is on Jeremy. No matter what he does China will always go running back to him. T.
Coraghessan Boyle demonstrates male dominancy in his short story “The Love of My Life.” “He drove her car, slept on the couch in the family room at her parents’ house, played tennis and watched football with her father on the big, thirty-six-inch TV in the kitchen” (345). This quote emphasizes that he, Jeremy, did everything. Boyle stresses this by only saying things that Jeremy did with China’s family. Nowhere in the short story does Boyle mention things that China does with Jeremy’s family or by herself. This implies that China did things with Jeremy and only Jeremy. “‘You’ve got to get rid of it,’ he told her in the motel room that had become a prison” (349). This quote shows that Jeremy is really demanding. By saying the words “you’ve got to” shows that Jeremy does not care about China’s input. He does not want the baby to be born so that is the way he thinks it should be. Jeremy wants the baby aborted, China does not. Boyle uses the phrase “in the motel room that had become a prison” to show that China is not happy at this point of conversation. That phrase shows that China feels trapped and feels that there is no way to escape the situation. However, China actually got her way for once. After Jeremy took a step back, he realized that getting an abortion would not be the best idea. He did not want to risk the chance of anyone finding out about their current situation. Jeremy and China then decided that they would just carry the baby to full term. Jeremy and China
continued to argue about the situation. “What are you going to do, keep it? Huh? Just show up for English 101 with a baby on your lap and say ‘Hi, I’m the Virgin Mary’”(349). This is really a powerful quote. At this point Jeremy is taking his dominant power to a whole other level. He is trying to get China to do things his way by making fun of her. Jeremy knows that if he talks to China negatively he will get her to abide by his rules. China falls into Jeremy’s trap and does what he wants to do. He knows that whenever he acts this way he will get what he wants in return. China does not care that she is dependent on her boyfriend. She also does not care that Jeremy is the dominant in their relationship. China has come accustomed to being the dependent person in her and Jeremy’s relationship. Valentine’s Day is celebrated on February 14th each year. This is a day where couples take a day, a night, or a weekend to themselves.They take this time to bond with one another. Couples also use Valentine’s Day as a day to evaluate their relationship and discuss the strengths and weaknesses that each of them hold for their relationship. They may also address issues such as dominance. If one person in the relationship feels the other is too dominant or controlling over the other, he or she may bring that topic up.