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The Three Relationship Killers
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Alan Pena
Nicole Freim
English 60B
November 20, 2014
The Three Relationship Killers
Every relationship has its problems, but there are three lethal causes that can destroy something that was once wonderful. Jealousy in a relationship causes envy and doubt, which can gradually cause the relationship to slowly bleed to its death. Jealousy is a sickening emotion that can overtake someone's mind into a combination of envious emotions ­ possessive, threatened, insecurity, suspicion, and humiliation. From being jealous about the significant other spending more time with his or her friends or even just having the significant other talking to someone of the opposite sex, is an example of how jealousy can arise. Jealousy can damage an affair by having one partner doubt and control their significant other, which only further pushes him or her away to a point of no return.
Lack of communication in a relationship is important in order to be understanding of each other’s needs without acting irrationally. Stubbornness, arrogance, arguing, yelling, and saying hurtful words is not the right way to communicate; instead, this behavior comes from the need to always be right and not listening to their partner's wants. Even if the truth hurts, a relationship must strive on communication in order to listen to each other’s honest feelings and wishes. Lastly, trust is a trait in a relationship that is extremely delicate that when lost can cause a relationship to end. People lose trust in their partner, when the significant other cheats or tells a serious lie that damages the relationship;

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which in return causes the trust one once had to diminish or be lost completely.
Trust in an affair of two people is a vital trait in order to keep the foundation of a relationship alive. Without the trust a couple needs, they won't get far with other problems slowly rising; as the cliché goes, "Without trust there is no relationship."
Jealousy, lack of

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