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In The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia trap lector given by scholar and author Stephanie Coontz discusses all the myths and facts of what is new and old in marriage and families. Many things that we consider to be relatively new to what our concepts of what we believe marriage to be are in fact old and have been around for centuries. The lecture that Coontz gave was extremely interesting and informative. She first touch on what is new and what is, in fact, not new, to families or marriages. The list of things that we think are new that is in fact not is: 1 parent families, step families, high divorce rates, and sex outside of marriage. Back in the day one parent families were due to the high death rates that occurred

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