Why friendship ends
5 Things That End Friendships, And Why That Just Might Be Okay
SEP. 23, 2013
By BRIANNA WIEST
We don’t know how to phase people in and out of our lives without getting attached. We just don’t. Granted, sometimes we have life-long friends who grow and change as we do, but that’s often not the case. Circumstances change. We change. And we’re not supposed to spend forever with people who don’t help us to enjoy life or teach us things about the world or ourselves or who generally don’t serve a purpose other than to frustrate us. Sometimes it’s just better to acknowledge that a friendship has run it’s course and that not every friendship, much like relationships in general, is meant to be a life-long thing. Accepting that is much better than trying to hold onto the pieces that are left. It’s the strain of trying to do so with people who don’t fit us anymore that really does us in. So very often, the circumstances will do the phasing for us, and maybe it’s not the worst thing if we let them.
1. Sometimes the cardinal rules are broken. You’re dating an ex. You’ve “sided” with someone else. You’ve done something you established was a friendship no-no in middle school and have realized that it’s somehow still applicable in adulthood. And maybe these limits are set for a reason. Maybe we don’t deserve to give our time and energy to people who choose these things over us. Maybe it’s the best way that we’re shown who is really worth keeping around. Maybe it’s even more important to consider whether or not we choose our own interest over the feelings of a “friend.” Because when the former takes precedence to an unhealthy degree, we should be taught something about that relationship, it’s indicative of how we really feel about that person.
2. Sometimes you move to different towns or states or countries and the time between your phone calls increases and sometimes you let that happen and appreciate the contact you still have, no matter what it looks like in comparison to
SEP. 23, 2013
By BRIANNA WIEST
We don’t know how to phase people in and out of our lives without getting attached. We just don’t. Granted, sometimes we have life-long friends who grow and change as we do, but that’s often not the case. Circumstances change. We change. And we’re not supposed to spend forever with people who don’t help us to enjoy life or teach us things about the world or ourselves or who generally don’t serve a purpose other than to frustrate us. Sometimes it’s just better to acknowledge that a friendship has run it’s course and that not every friendship, much like relationships in general, is meant to be a life-long thing. Accepting that is much better than trying to hold onto the pieces that are left. It’s the strain of trying to do so with people who don’t fit us anymore that really does us in. So very often, the circumstances will do the phasing for us, and maybe it’s not the worst thing if we let them.
1. Sometimes the cardinal rules are broken. You’re dating an ex. You’ve “sided” with someone else. You’ve done something you established was a friendship no-no in middle school and have realized that it’s somehow still applicable in adulthood. And maybe these limits are set for a reason. Maybe we don’t deserve to give our time and energy to people who choose these things over us. Maybe it’s the best way that we’re shown who is really worth keeping around. Maybe it’s even more important to consider whether or not we choose our own interest over the feelings of a “friend.” Because when the former takes precedence to an unhealthy degree, we should be taught something about that relationship, it’s indicative of how we really feel about that person.
2. Sometimes you move to different towns or states or countries and the time between your phone calls increases and sometimes you let that happen and appreciate the contact you still have, no matter what it looks like in comparison to