Why Is Confrontation So Difficult
Why is confrontation so difficult?
The need for confrontation typically derives from a person exhibiting incongruent verbal and nonverbal communication. That is, drawing out inconsistencies a person displays is usually uncomfortable: Especially for a new counselor. But why the need for confrontation in the first place? Where and why did these incongruencies originate? The reasons will vary from person to person, but I feel a generic, universal reason is not wanting to deal with a situation that may potentially be harmful (e.g., physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually) to someone else or yourself.
Confrontation in counseling can be difficult for various reasons as well. Even framed appropriately, shining light on a person’s inconsistent behavior, albeit verbal or nonverbal, can easily make a client defensive. Moreover, the client may think they are being judged or being put down. However, if we are to effectively assist clients with their emotional and mental distress, there will be times when confrontation is not only necessary, but also inevitable. While “First, do no harm” should always be at …show more content…
That what they are doing or how they are doing it is in need of correction. However, while being reprimanded, being disciplined is never fun; it is a part of the Christian life. Jesus said, “Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit, He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit, He prunes it so that it may bear more fruit” (John 15:2, NASB). Moreover, in Hebrews it is written “For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, And He scourges every son whom He receives” (12:6, NASB). A goal of therapy is “enabling clients to engage in self-disputation of their own irrational beliefs” (Jones & Butman, 2XXX, p. 179). However, before this can happen “First, a person must become aware of thoughts relevant to the problem being experienced” (Jones & Butman, 2XXX, p. 203) which may be in the form of
The need for confrontation typically derives from a person exhibiting incongruent verbal and nonverbal communication. That is, drawing out inconsistencies a person displays is usually uncomfortable: Especially for a new counselor. But why the need for confrontation in the first place? Where and why did these incongruencies originate? The reasons will vary from person to person, but I feel a generic, universal reason is not wanting to deal with a situation that may potentially be harmful (e.g., physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually) to someone else or yourself.
Confrontation in counseling can be difficult for various reasons as well. Even framed appropriately, shining light on a person’s inconsistent behavior, albeit verbal or nonverbal, can easily make a client defensive. Moreover, the client may think they are being judged or being put down. However, if we are to effectively assist clients with their emotional and mental distress, there will be times when confrontation is not only necessary, but also inevitable. While “First, do no harm” should always be at …show more content…
That what they are doing or how they are doing it is in need of correction. However, while being reprimanded, being disciplined is never fun; it is a part of the Christian life. Jesus said, “Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit, He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit, He prunes it so that it may bear more fruit” (John 15:2, NASB). Moreover, in Hebrews it is written “For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, And He scourges every son whom He receives” (12:6, NASB). A goal of therapy is “enabling clients to engage in self-disputation of their own irrational beliefs” (Jones & Butman, 2XXX, p. 179). However, before this can happen “First, a person must become aware of thoughts relevant to the problem being experienced” (Jones & Butman, 2XXX, p. 203) which may be in the form of