young generation's responsibility

Unfortunately a young person do not come with an instruction manual, and what works for one teenager to became a responsible person might not work for another one.
In my family there is people that are very responsible and others that are not at all, and I see that the difference has a lot to do with the country and also the financial stability you grow up in. I noticed that teenagers that grow up in this country are not very responsible for what they do and a lot of the times they try to blame others for whatever stupid decision they took. I also believe that these irresponsibility is in reaching out our older adults too.
From what I have heard about my previous generation, it seems that they were a lot more responsible at a earlier age. My older generation were moving out of their houses and getting their own places between the ages of sixteen and eighteen. This generation had no much room for failure because my grandparents were at a really low poverty level and had no way to help them, and for this same reason they did not failed.
I believe that if you give responsibility to teenagers and they fail, as a parent you let them pay the consequences of their behavior. When you do not let your kids pay for their mistakes, you are not teaching them responsibility.
I am sixteen, still fighting to figure out what I truly believe in, but I am still reminded at every time I am down, of my favorite Spanish song, probably from Mexico, 'Hay no que llorrar, por que la vida es un carnaval" and then it pretty much goes on to say, we have to go on life singing. I still sometimes face some weird things, and I know what I am passionate about, education for everyone and letting the truth out about mental illness.
Where I live, most of the time language and culture matters, but the one thing that is constantly hidden behind closed windows, and blank eyes is this, mental illness. People forget that everyone is different and at times we break down, and when you break down so bad