5 Character Defects That Ruin a Relationship

When we consider a relationship/marriage, we hear time and time again about the ingredients that make a relationship/marriage work. Love, honesty, trust and communication are a few of those that normally soar to the top of the list. We are also familiar with the actions that lead to the destruction of a relationship/marriage. Infidelity, abuse and neglect all go to the top of that list. However, do we ever consider those things that we don’t necessarily see as destroying a relationship/marriage, but over time can definitely lead to the wear and tear of a relationship?
Below are the character defects that should be barred from relationship/marriage. If you happen to fit quite nicely into any one of these characteristics, don’t fret, there’s hope.
The Score Keeper is most concerned with winning than in what’s best for the relationship/marriage. Their ultimate goal is to be right. People in a relationship with this person will eventually stop communicating as a result of never feeling heard or never feeling they have a real opportunity to express their feelings. Taking responsibility and admitting when you’re wrong isn’t always easy, but it’s fair. We all make mistakes but we should learn from them and keep moving forward. We must humble ourselves by considering what the best outcome for the partnership is. Being mindful of our intentions and uncovering our need to win is also helpful. Ask “What can I do in this moment to create peace?” Using that as a guide when you have a strong urge to prove you’re right is true victory.
The Complainer is never satisfied and nothing ever appears to be good enough. The expectation of things not working out is constant. Constant complaints from one partner make the other feel inadequate. For this defect, I recommend creating a list of all the positives in the relationship/marriage. Asking questions like “Which awesome qualities does my spouse bring to the table and what are the benefits of my relationship/marriage?” is a useful