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Abusive Relationships
During my sophomore year of high school, I was “blessed” to have my first boyfriend, or so I thought. I finally ended our relationship after a whole year of deception and infidelity. I found myself battling my significant other in an abusive relationship. At first, it seemed unlikely that the two of us would end on negative terms, but the experience was evident, and I was just oblivious to the signs. The story of my first love was not a tale ending with “happily ever after,” but a tragedy framed by heartbreak and trampled hope.
Shortly after the crumble of our invective relationship, I started picturing myself as a person no one could love. I had the textbook feelings of a “battered women” because “emotional abuse is just as bad as physical”,so


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