She talked about how she was never at home at always slept over at her friend’s houses, due to how the house was always freezing cold and she did not have food. “Maureen always had plenty to eat, since she had made friends throughout the neighborhood and would show up at their houses around dinnertime” (173). This is an example of Identity vs Role Confusion. “Adolescents search for a sense of self and personal identity, through an intense exploration of personal values, beliefs, and goals” (Erikson). She can’t form her own personal identity properly if she does not have a proper family caring for her. Not having an actual family to care for her impacts how she sees the…
In a sense the holding environment of the family itself, i.e. the capacity and environment of the family unit to hold these intense emotions was negligible, not only did the parents send the message that they were unable to deal with intense emotions, they also related that they were unwilling to do so. Mary’s depressive reaction to this was two fold. There is an aspect where her cutting and depression were ways to reign in the family’s attention, to inject some emotional caring into her family, which she did successfully as evidenced by the family’s urgency at entering therapy. However, through therapy more was revealed about her depressive feelings and behavior. Through understanding what was going on in the room, the push and pull of how her parents would be minimizing of the emotional content and Mary’s reactions, it was eventually interpreted that in many ways her depression was a way of getting back at her parents, a…
Saeed had been responsible for treating Andrea’s condition. One of the first mistakes De. Saeed had made was taking Andrea off medication that was helping her most, Haldol. Another mistake that had been made by a different psychiatrist, Dr. Eileen Starbranch, was mixing her medication together to try an “emergency injection” which caused immediate affects, that were not appropriate for her case. If that does not cut it, another psychiatrist, Dr. James Thomas, had known that she attempted suicide, and cannot be sane after the short amount of time she was on medication and in institutions. Andrea’s psychiatrists should have realized she was a very unfit mother, no matter what, and could not be cured as fast as they said. They knew all about her condition, even about her experiencing voices and visions. As professionals they should have realized she had serious problems and was not fit to be around her children any time…
This is obvious in Connie's situation through her actions. She endangers her own life to spare her family from the wrath of Arnold Friend, "You don't want them to get hurt,' Arnold Friend went on, Now get up, honey. Get up all by yourself.' She stood." (p. 510). If she had refused to go, her family would have been put in danger, yet, through the story Connie appears to be very unattached from her family. There is a large amount of tension between her and her mother, "her mother, who noticed everything and knew everything and who hadn't much reason any longer to look at her own face, always scolded Connie about it," (p. 499). Connie's father is uninvolved in her life, "their father was away at work most of the time and when he came home he wanted supper and he read the newspaper at supper and after supper he went to bed. He didn't bother talking much to them " (p. 499) and Connie shows no appreciation for her sister, "she was so plain and chunky and steady that Connie had to hear her praised all the time by her mother and her mother's sisters," (p. 499). She is leading a typical rebellious teenage life where she avoids parental guidance but still has a deep appreciation for them and would risk her own life to spare…
Aileen was born in 1956 to her 16 year old mother. She was not born with any physical or mental disabilities. At the time of her birth her father was incarcerated for child molestation and he was also believed to be a schizophrenic, he hung himself in jail and Aileen never met him. When Aileen was 3 years old her mother abandoned her and her 4 year old brother and left them with her own parents who legally adopted them. The family struggled economically and by age 11 Aileen would engage in sexual activities for food, drugs and alcohol. Home life was not easy for Aileen as she claims to be sexually abused by her alcoholic grandfather and beaten by her grandmother. She would also engage in sexual activities with her brother and at age 14 she became pregnant and there was confusion on whether the father of the baby was her brother, Keith, or her grandfather’s friend who had raped her. She birthed the baby and put it up for adoption as well as dropping out of school. Shortly after all of this her grandfather kicked her out on the street. To stay alive she was forced to cling to prostitution to meet her basic needs and to stay alive. Growing up was extremely difficult and Aileen often felt worthless.…
Many people refuse to believe that the expectations that society’s gender roles enforce upon us do more harm than good. But these cages have been the undoing of many. An excellent example of this occurrence is the character of Mary Karr’s mother in Karr’s memoir, The Liar’s Club. Charlie, as she is known, faces tall expectations that she ultimately cannot reach by her own mother, her society, and ultimately herself as well. These harsh expectations placed upon Charlie and her own sense of failure following her first marriage ending horribly lead to the psychotic break in chapter seven and her behavior in Colorado.…
Connie’s mother often ridiculed Connie when Connie looked in the mirror by saying, “Stop gawking at yourself., who do you think you are? You think you are so pretty.” Connie would become so angry with her mother, she even wished her mother dead. Connie never liked to speak to her mother and did not want to be around her mother. In the presence of her mother Connie could not be herself so when she was away from her mother she would act and dress inappropriate for a 15 year old girl. Connie’s motivation for dressing provocatively was to attract attention from boys. Unbeknownst to Connie her mother was right, looking and dressing inappropriate would eventually cause Connie extreme danger.…
Growing up as a child, Aileen agonized over the hurt and betrayal that her grandfather and the men in her family caused. From the beginning Aileen, had family issues that were on surface that never got resolved, which is a concise explanation concerning how she behaved as an adult. Some of the most important biological factors that influenced Aileen’s life were the fact that her mom abandoned her by choice when she and her siblings were young. Her biological father killed himself when she was a small child, which allowed her grandparents to…
Hannah Baker was a high school student who committed suicide. No one saw it coming, no one expected it, no one noticed or determined the signs of thoughts of suicide that Hannah portrayed. Before she committed this tragic event, Hannah left behind thirteen recorded messages that explained the thirteen reasons to why she killed herself; the reasons to why she was driven over the edge. Each of these messages were copied to tapes, each side of the tape was directed towards one specific person in which caused one of the reasons. The tapes went in order, from the beginning of Hannah's problems, to the end. Hannah mailed the tapes to the first person the day she ended her life. Afterwards that person was asked to mail the set of tapes to the person mentioned on the second tape (or other side), and so on and so on. Many people have many different outlooks on what this book teaches us, or what this book is about or has to say and many have different opinions on what story of Hannah's is the worst or caused the most impact in her death.…
From Beyond the Struggles: A Literacy Narrative Looking back at my childhood, I can tell you things were not as they seem. As a child, many of my neighbors assumed my sibling and I were perfectly happy spending hours outside playing around the neighborhood. However, this is not true, I would have preferred to be hidden in the corner of my bedroom curled up with a Judy Bloom or Hardy Boys book away from the constant battling between my brothers and sister. When I was in the third grade my mother whom I loved so much, started locking us out of the house. Reading or doing homework was an impossible task to accomplish when you are stranded outside.…
I agree that Daum’s manner of dealing with her grief was unexpected as well as that her way of trying to help his parents was wrong. Perhaps it seemed easier to lie to them than it was to point out the failures in parenting that they were rendered incapable of fixing. She felt that telling them the truth would have only made it harder on everyone and forced them to live in the same guilt that she did.…
Sonya’s mother remarried when Sonya was seven, and her new stepfather was a big influence on Sonya’s life up until her mother’s divorce from him when Sonya was 17. Sonya resents her mother because of all the time she spent taking care of her younger brothers so that her mother and stepfather could work. Sonya thought it unfair that at times she could not participate in activities with teenagers her age because of her babysitting duties. Sonya spoke of her depression throughout junior high and high school. She says the depression never left her.…
Sabrina, a close friend of Angela’s is another influence on Angela’s self-imposed incarceration. Sabrina admits to teaching Angela like a mother teaches her daughter (63). Sabrina, a mentor, for Angela ends up hanging herself in prison (145). Her suicide serves a purpose in the book because it shows how another of Angela’s role models also confined her problems deeply within…
In May 2009 the family of nineteen year old Sara, attended her funeral. After her death her sister, Leah, stumbled across Sara's journal, the first entry of which read “ I really don't know where I should start. I guess with how I feel. I feel like a complete failure. I've let bulimia take over again, and I'm slowly crumbling into nothing.” At one point Sara told her parents about her struggle with bulimia. Just two months earlier she had written these words,…
The theme of grief is the most obvious message Alice Sebold uses in her novel. Through the voice of Susie Salmon, the fourteen-year-old narrator of the novel, readers get an in-depth look at the grieving process. Susie focuses more on the aftermath and effects of her murder and rape on her family rather than on the event itself. She watches her parents and sister move through the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. However, Alice Sebold makes clear that these categories do not necessarily remain rigid and that individuals deal with grief in various ways. For example, Abigail, Susie's mother, withdraws from her living children, Lindsey and Buckley, whereas Jack, her husband, draws closer to them. Lindsey, Susie's sister, vacillates between denial and acceptance, sometimes exhibiting both elements simultaneously. In addition, Sebold expands the definitions of both loss and grief by including Susie herself in the process. If readers limit their understanding of grief to losing and coping with the death of a loved one,…