The poem is filled with examples of Prufrock's insecurities. This insecurity is a hindrance for him. It holds him back from doing the things he wishes to do. This is the sort of characteristic that makes Alfred into a hopeless character. He will not find happiness until he finds self-assurance within himself. The repetition of words like vision and revision show his feelings of insecurity in communicating with the people around him. J. Alfred Prufrock's self esteem affects his love life greatly. The woman he is in love with is younger than he is and this distresses him. He does not believe that some younger women could possibly accept him or find him attractive. Expressing any kind of affection to her is awkward and difficult. Prufrock knows what he must say but cannot bring himself to say it. "Should I, after tea and cakes and ices, have the strength to force the moment to its crisis?" His insecurity in his love life is very troublesome for him indeed. He wishes greatly to express his affection but it becomes silenced within him. He compares himself to Lazarus, a man that Jesus raised from the dead. He feels that it will take a miracle to make him feel young again.
Prufrock realizes the impact of his age on his love life later in the poem. He assumes his love would be useless because he is old. Prufrock believes