Children Of Divorce Research Paper
Children of Divorce
Shawn Bianchi
Devry University
Children of Divorce
Victoria was on the playground at school playing with all her friends, when all of a sudden she saw her dad on the school playground. The only thing she remembers is her dad telling her “Tell your mom I am not coming home tonight”. Victoria sat there stunned and didn’t know how to respond. Her parents eventually did divorce. After they divorced, both parents would bad mouth the other parent in front of her and her brother. Victoria became a messenger which put her in the middle having to choose between parents. She became used to her dad saying he was coming to get her for his visits and then never show up. Due to the high level of conflict that continued between her parents, neither parent was there for the emotional support of her or her brother. Victoria grew up with low self-esteem, difficulty with interpersonal relationships, caught in the middle of her parents as well as the loss of her father being involved in her life.
Stories such as this one are far too common and there are ways that this situation can be avoided. Adults are here to protect our children’s emotional and well-being so that children are less likely to experience this situation when there parent’s decide to divorce. By empowering parents, attorneys and therapists to put children first is not an easy thing to do when emotions are so high in regards to the loss of the family structure. Children such as Victoria should not be placed in the middle of adult issues. They need to feel loved, secured, and safe from both parents in order to lessen the negative impacts they may experience. This will not be an easy …show more content…
New Research says the long term damage is worse than you thought. Should unhappy parents stay married for the sake of the children? Source: The impact divorce on children:
Shawn Bianchi
Devry University
Children of Divorce
Victoria was on the playground at school playing with all her friends, when all of a sudden she saw her dad on the school playground. The only thing she remembers is her dad telling her “Tell your mom I am not coming home tonight”. Victoria sat there stunned and didn’t know how to respond. Her parents eventually did divorce. After they divorced, both parents would bad mouth the other parent in front of her and her brother. Victoria became a messenger which put her in the middle having to choose between parents. She became used to her dad saying he was coming to get her for his visits and then never show up. Due to the high level of conflict that continued between her parents, neither parent was there for the emotional support of her or her brother. Victoria grew up with low self-esteem, difficulty with interpersonal relationships, caught in the middle of her parents as well as the loss of her father being involved in her life.
Stories such as this one are far too common and there are ways that this situation can be avoided. Adults are here to protect our children’s emotional and well-being so that children are less likely to experience this situation when there parent’s decide to divorce. By empowering parents, attorneys and therapists to put children first is not an easy thing to do when emotions are so high in regards to the loss of the family structure. Children such as Victoria should not be placed in the middle of adult issues. They need to feel loved, secured, and safe from both parents in order to lessen the negative impacts they may experience. This will not be an easy …show more content…
New Research says the long term damage is worse than you thought. Should unhappy parents stay married for the sake of the children? Source: The impact divorce on children: