Circular Behaviors

For example, I repeatedly began to grasp toys while sucking on them and staring while touching objects around the house these. In the third substage secondary circulation reactions I began to make noises and see if others would respond. Around 9 to 10 months of age I began to exhibit goal-directed behavior which aloud me to solve problems like move my toys around to get another. According to third substage, I gained the ability of object performance to realize that people and objects exist even when I could not see them. I achieved substage 5 around 19 months of age. The tertiary circular reactions became insightful as I began to explore and wonder about the world. Lastly, in substage 6, I began to have posses mental representations of
past events and objects. I was also able to exhibit imitation, such as feed my Barbie dolls and bathe them. When I was younger I did not particularly like to engage in large groups. I appreciated the quality of one or two friends and not quantity to be friends with everyone. I wasn't a very physically active child I prefered to stay inside and watch tv or color by myself. My mom exemplifies the authoritative child rearing style.
My mom contained high expectations of me seeing as though I was the first born. My parents expected me to be mature, well behaved, and to excel academically. My mom's expectations primarily were realistic and typically attainable. However, when I made a mistake my mom was okay that I learned from my mistakes. After my parents divorce I started to realize my father adopted the authoritarian style to parenting me and my younger siblings. My dad was extremely strict he enforced tough rules and incredibly high expectations. For instance, I received a bad report from school and my dad took away television, video games, and sweets from me for two weeks. In elementary school, I developed new skills like reading, writing, learning to write in cursive, and mathematical skills. I attended a Christian school so I also gained knowledge on the Bible and Christian values. Since I excelled in Erik Erikson's industry vs inferiority stage it helped build my self esteem and confidence. My academic performance pleased my parents and therefore encouraged me to continue to put forth effort in school. According to Erikson I believe that I conquered the industry stage because my productivity throughout the years has led me to
college. Throughout the years my friendship criterias have evolved since I’ve gotten older. From ages four to seven I became friends with children who were in the same activities like me. I participated in cheerleading, tap dancing, and paint club. My best friend Ashanti from elementary would always let me eat some her skittles, go first in hide and go seek, and defend me if kids were picking on me. I can now see that I based my friendships primarily dependent on her behavior towards me. As I have grown over the years I gained a new perspective on friendship. I began to base my friendships on how trustworthy an individual was. Im one of those girls who love to gossip and exchange secrets so I would require my friends to be able to not betray my trust. This stage in my friendships is still one of the main factors that I base my friendships on today. By the time I was in high school my qualities of friendships became more important. My closest friend Christie became the person I felt comfortable confiding in. When conflict and trouble emerged Christie would encourage and support me through it. Christi’s influence help me become the woman I am today. In addition, my family’s influence helped me develop certain behaviors. My parents behaviors, beliefs, and expectations influenced how I've developed throughout the years. I inherited my mom incapabilities to express her emotions. My mother raised me to believe that this was a sign of vulnerability. Furthermore, my father believed expressing one’s emotions will appear weak. This effected my interpersonal relationships with my friends and boyfriends throughout the years. Other than my best friend I wouldn't let people have a close intimate relationship with me because I was comfortable opening up to her. Academically my mom raised me to try to put forth my best effort. My mom always expressed that she did not want me to be an overachiever. Today, I still do not aim to overachieve in because I wasn't raised to try my best. At times I would view this as a hindrance because I always settled for average grades. I believe I inherited these tendencies due to close contact from my parents. My siblings and peers have significantly influenced my development by providing insight into conflict resolution. My siblings and I get into alot arguments and this helped me with develop better ways to compromise and negotiate with friends and peers. I took these practices with me when I went to college and was forced to coexist in a dorm with girls from different parts of the country. My peers have influenced me throughout the years providing me with different perspectives on the world. My peers have helped me realize that it is okay to express yourself, ask for help, and support others in stressful situations. In addition, my peers have influenced my growth by helping me build knowledge and navigate through difficult social situations like dating, going through puberty, and arguments. My peers help me asses who I am by the people I socially compare myself to. According to James Marcia theory I classify myself with identity foreclosure. Currently in my life I see myself having a job, having a family, and making my parents proud however, I struggle to make decisions and commitments about my future. I have a range of options to consider like going to the army, earning my doctorate in clinical psychology, teaching, or helping children by working in Child Protective Services. I want to make this decision by myself for me with having my parents expectations influence my choice on the future. I believe that in school you either participate in bullying or you become a victim of bullying. I was born eczema, asthma, and an eye astigmatism. These condition all attributed to my negative experience with bullying. In elementary school some children didn't want to sit by me or be associated with me. My eczema practically covered my whole body I even had some rashes on my face. Some of the children would refer to me as ugly or would be scared to sit next to me because they were under the impression that eczema was contagious. Now that I've matured throughout the years I understand that I was outcasted and victimized because I was different compared to them. I believe I was experiencing the Industry Vs. Inferiority stage in this part of my life. It is at this stage that my peer group mattered to my most and what they thought about me influenced my self esteem and self concept. I think I best identify with with Kohlberg's Sequence of Moral Reasoning. As level 1 is concerned I believe that I was a “good two shoes” because I rather obey the rules than face punishment from my parents, teachers or a police officer for instance. Typically, I was rewarded for following the rules like doing my chores, homework, or making good grades so I was more inclined to follow the rules due to reward orientation. In addition, level 2 best describes my need to be nice and well behaved because my desire to be respected by my peers, teachers, and parents. I believe their is a constant struggle to follow the rules of society or go follow your individual principles. I rarely disobey societies laws but as it pertains to my individual morality principles I would go against the rules of society. I couldn't live with myself knowing that I could have changed an outcome from occurring because of society's laws.