Crucible
It’s more difficult to forgive yourself if the person you have hurt doesn’t forgive you. By: Lindsey Littlejohn
Well this is somewhat not true, it’s kind of a 50/50 situation here .If the person hasn’t forgave you but has moved on from what ever happened it shouldn’t be that difficult to forgive yourself .People make mistakes all the time in the real world and yes some don’t forgive you but you have to go and move on . Really what’s happening is the reason you haven’t forgave yourself and you think it’s so” difficult” is because you’re holding a grudge on yourself and you haven’t moved on from what you did . If you truly loved, liked, etc. that person you wouldn’t have hurt that individual in the first place . What’s the real purpose of it being so difficult is it because if that person doesn’t forgive you, you feel you might be less of a person to him/her. Realize that the person who is trying to forgive you, its way more difficult for him/her than it is for you. Not forgiving yourself is like a wound you pick at it, it’s only going to get worse. Meaning you can’t forgive yourself if you’re only making things worse for you not that individual you hurt. There is a quote that David McAuthor and Bruce McAuthor once wrote it said , “Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it “ . So what this means is the person you hurt could really want to remember what you did so they learn from it. In my own experience I was in a situation that I did things that I shouldn’t have done. I hurt that person to the max where he didn’t want to forgive me and he didn’t want to talk to me ever again as much as I apologized it just wasn’t enough for him to say I forgive you . But did it hurt for me yes at first but then weeks passed years passed then it was not so much , did it hurt him yes for sure but he forgot all about it years later .
Well this is somewhat not true, it’s kind of a 50/50 situation here .If the person hasn’t forgave you but has moved on from what ever happened it shouldn’t be that difficult to forgive yourself .People make mistakes all the time in the real world and yes some don’t forgive you but you have to go and move on . Really what’s happening is the reason you haven’t forgave yourself and you think it’s so” difficult” is because you’re holding a grudge on yourself and you haven’t moved on from what you did . If you truly loved, liked, etc. that person you wouldn’t have hurt that individual in the first place . What’s the real purpose of it being so difficult is it because if that person doesn’t forgive you, you feel you might be less of a person to him/her. Realize that the person who is trying to forgive you, its way more difficult for him/her than it is for you. Not forgiving yourself is like a wound you pick at it, it’s only going to get worse. Meaning you can’t forgive yourself if you’re only making things worse for you not that individual you hurt. There is a quote that David McAuthor and Bruce McAuthor once wrote it said , “Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it “ . So what this means is the person you hurt could really want to remember what you did so they learn from it. In my own experience I was in a situation that I did things that I shouldn’t have done. I hurt that person to the max where he didn’t want to forgive me and he didn’t want to talk to me ever again as much as I apologized it just wasn’t enough for him to say I forgive you . But did it hurt for me yes at first but then weeks passed years passed then it was not so much , did it hurt him yes for sure but he forgot all about it years later .