Crumbling steps of marriage
The Crumbling Steps of Marriage
In the article, Why Marriages Fail, by Annie Roiphe, she expresses the success and destruction of marriage, how and why they fail. She believes that most marriages have different phases and interference from various outside sources that puts the marriage through different tests to prove whether it will last or not. Three reasons marriages fail is due to lack of communication, outside pressures, and lack of sacrifice. In Why Marriages Fail, one of the reasons named for why marriages fail is lack of communication. In the article, Roiphe states, “Dishonesty, hiding and cheating create walls between men and women” (Roiphe, 553). This quote states that when a couple begins to keep secrets from each other, it creates an elephant in the room and communication thus, is not the same. I agree with this quote because once someone does something wrong, guilt comes in. Through guilt, it then becomes hard for them to talk to each other about problems. When there’s no communication, it can only lead to more cheating and dishonesty until the only thing to resolve the issue is divorce. Along with lack of communication, the author also names outside pressures as another source that destroys marriages. With marriage, other problems kick in to test the strength of the marriage, whether it will survive or not. In the article, the author states, “Outside pressures such as job loss, illness, infertility…..and all other plagues of life hit marriage…” (Roiphe, 551). The author simply says that when different issues occur in a marriage the couple can’t come together to solve the problem(s). I agree with this quote because this can occur when marriage is initiated for the wrong reasons. For example, a woman may marry a man because of the wealth he has. However, one day, the man loses his job and all the fortune that came along with that. The marriage then crumbles because it came
In the article, Why Marriages Fail, by Annie Roiphe, she expresses the success and destruction of marriage, how and why they fail. She believes that most marriages have different phases and interference from various outside sources that puts the marriage through different tests to prove whether it will last or not. Three reasons marriages fail is due to lack of communication, outside pressures, and lack of sacrifice. In Why Marriages Fail, one of the reasons named for why marriages fail is lack of communication. In the article, Roiphe states, “Dishonesty, hiding and cheating create walls between men and women” (Roiphe, 553). This quote states that when a couple begins to keep secrets from each other, it creates an elephant in the room and communication thus, is not the same. I agree with this quote because once someone does something wrong, guilt comes in. Through guilt, it then becomes hard for them to talk to each other about problems. When there’s no communication, it can only lead to more cheating and dishonesty until the only thing to resolve the issue is divorce. Along with lack of communication, the author also names outside pressures as another source that destroys marriages. With marriage, other problems kick in to test the strength of the marriage, whether it will survive or not. In the article, the author states, “Outside pressures such as job loss, illness, infertility…..and all other plagues of life hit marriage…” (Roiphe, 551). The author simply says that when different issues occur in a marriage the couple can’t come together to solve the problem(s). I agree with this quote because this can occur when marriage is initiated for the wrong reasons. For example, a woman may marry a man because of the wealth he has. However, one day, the man loses his job and all the fortune that came along with that. The marriage then crumbles because it came
Cited: Roiphe, Anne. “Why Marriages Fail” Strategies for Successful Writing A Rhetoric Research Guide, Reader, and Handbook 9th ed. Prentice Hall, 2006 Page 551-553