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Marriage: The Unsaid

Most couples when found upon the concept of a wedding are not handed a guide book to a successful loving marriage. Couples appear to have a vague understanding of their commitment to marriage. A long life journey full of unexpected surprises, and adjusting accommodations. Eric Bartels, the author of “My Problem With Her Anger,” contends he feels compelled by the division of household work, and the lack of support from his wife. Such as lack of communication and anger management. Conversely, in “The Difference Between a Happy Marriage and Miserable One: Chores,” Wendy Klein, Carolina Izquierdo, and Thomas N Bradbury describe how different couples within a marriage handle chores, depending on a respect for mutual boundaries, support
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In “My Problem With Her Anger” husband and father, Eric Bartels expresses the wearisome, and subjection encountered from household work. He feels compelled by his wife's unappreciated views for his efforts and willingness to assist around their home. “What gets me, though, is how little credit I get for the effort” (MPWHA, 438). Like any individual assisting with chores or activities, the relevance to receive appreciation is vital. Most individuals enjoy positive feedback for their work, such as household work. Transitioning more into the consistent apathetic tone from his wife, Bartels makes the assumption that the issue maybe his wife’s temper, and women's tendency of not being equip with their anger management. “...the more important issue: Controlling the monstrous effects...In other words, buck up,” (MPWHA, 439). Although it is relevant that Bartels attempts to support his stance, he fails to provide more of his own flaws and weaknesses. Such as putting dirty

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