Perry Barbara 4MAT Review 1Gottman
Running head: 4 MAT REVIEW, GOTTMAN 1
4 MAT Review of, “The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman and Nan Silver
Barbara Perry
Liberty University
602-D03, S. McCreary
Running head: 4 MAT REVIEW, GOTTMAN 2
“The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman and Nan Silver
Summary
In this book, Gottman & Silver (1999) present sound marriage advice based on years of study. Chapters 1 and 2 cover preventing and predicting divorce. They focus on keeping the negatives from outweighing the positives. Creating an emotionally intelligent marriage involves being in touch with your spouse’s emotions (Gottman & Silver, 1999). Love maps are examined in chapter 3. Couples are encouraged to increase their knowledge of information concerning their spouse. Empathy desires and aspirations, knowledge about likes and dislikes, interests, work relationships, and other personal feelings or issues are encouraged. Focusing on positive aspects of the past guides chapter 4. Storing and then drawing on a history of positive feelings can elicit praise, according to Gottman & Silver (1999). These positive feelings, while fostering respect and accepting differences of opinion, will result in fondness and admiration. Connecting with each other daily relaying everyday activities, discussing problems, and encouraging each other is a sure sign of turning toward one another rather than away in chapter 5. This lays a foundation where each person feels validated and appreciated and creates a lasting bond.
Running head: 4 MAT REVIEW, GOTTMAN 3 Gottman & Silver (1999) emphasize in chapter 6 that if spouses have room for influence from each other, it increases their level of mutual respect. Marriages are
4 MAT Review of, “The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman and Nan Silver
Barbara Perry
Liberty University
602-D03, S. McCreary
Running head: 4 MAT REVIEW, GOTTMAN 2
“The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman and Nan Silver
Summary
In this book, Gottman & Silver (1999) present sound marriage advice based on years of study. Chapters 1 and 2 cover preventing and predicting divorce. They focus on keeping the negatives from outweighing the positives. Creating an emotionally intelligent marriage involves being in touch with your spouse’s emotions (Gottman & Silver, 1999). Love maps are examined in chapter 3. Couples are encouraged to increase their knowledge of information concerning their spouse. Empathy desires and aspirations, knowledge about likes and dislikes, interests, work relationships, and other personal feelings or issues are encouraged. Focusing on positive aspects of the past guides chapter 4. Storing and then drawing on a history of positive feelings can elicit praise, according to Gottman & Silver (1999). These positive feelings, while fostering respect and accepting differences of opinion, will result in fondness and admiration. Connecting with each other daily relaying everyday activities, discussing problems, and encouraging each other is a sure sign of turning toward one another rather than away in chapter 5. This lays a foundation where each person feels validated and appreciated and creates a lasting bond.
Running head: 4 MAT REVIEW, GOTTMAN 3 Gottman & Silver (1999) emphasize in chapter 6 that if spouses have room for influence from each other, it increases their level of mutual respect. Marriages are
References: Gottman, J. & Silver, M. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York, NY: Three Rivers Press