In the past few years, social networking sites have been became more and more popular around the world. Most people use online communication to improve their relationships, but are they really improving relationships? According to Sherry Turkle’s book Alone Together, “online connections were first conceived as a substitute for face-to-face contact, when the latter was for some reason impractical: Don’t have time to make a phone call? Shoot off a text message. But very quickly, the text message became the connection of choices” (13). She explains how online communication was invented for emergency situations but later turns to main idea for communicate with friends and family. People are spending more time on online communications while it makes problem for relationships by not allowing people to contact face-to-face or verbal, decreasing privacy, and it also has a bad effect on romantic relationships.
The best and more effective conversation is when people can deal with nonverbal cues and feelings. As Communication in Society book explains, “Nonverbal cues play an important role in understanding the totality of a person’s message. When you speak to someone face-to-face, you see their gestures, facial expressions, and attire; you hear their sighs, accent, or dialect” (Albert, Martin, Nakayama 148). Communicating with digital communication takes the opportunity to be contact based on feeling and expressions which makes problem for relationships. So non-virtual communication is deeper because people are able to see facial expressions, body gesture and they can understand feeling better. Also Scruton agrees with this idea and in his article “Hiding Behind the Screen” he states, “In the normal conditions of human contact, people became friends by being in each other’s presence, understanding all the many subtle signals, verbal and bodily, whereby another testifies to his character, emotions, and intentions,
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