After reading Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior by Amy Chua, I learned three key differences between Chinese and Western “mothering.” First, Western parents are focused on the physiological behavior of academics and self-esteem issues with their children while Chinese parents are not. Second, Western parents view their children to try their best and do not need to repay the parents, in contrast Chinese parents view their children to be permanently in debt to them. Last, Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children. Western parents will not over-ride their children and allow their children do what it is they desire.…
The Death of Woman Wang, by Jonathan Spence is a historical novel pertaining to average people living in northeastern China. Spence’s book is unlike the “typical” social Confucian society China was thought to resemble during the seventeenth century. In this book, ideas of a Confucian family are challenged and can be seen as alternative but non-the-less, Confucian throughout human interaction and specifically in individual behavior. The Confucian ideas of filial piety, suicide, and being subservient are present, yet not as prominent as historians might think in a small town known as T’an-ch’eng.…
In the article, Adapted from Battle of Hymn of the Tiger Mother the author Amy Chua’s intent is to describe the differences between Chinese and Western parenting styles. She begins by explaining her personal parenting style and although her parenting style brings controversy it also demonstrates what a parent will do in order to help their children be successful. After all, a parent’s true purpose is to do what is best for their children.…
The country I chose to write about is China. The Chinese culture is one that has been forming for centuries due to the country’s rich history. China has always been known as a communist country, but recently it has been phasing out those practices and replacing them with capitalist practices. A custom that is very relevant in their culture is their emphasis on family lineage. Many men are expected to marry in order to carry on their family names (Hitton). This custom pressured women into giving birth to male children so that the family name could be passed on (Hitton). Family respect is also important to their culture. The elders of the family are always honored and obeyed above other members. Due to their communist history, group work has a bigger emphasis than individual work (Hitton). For example, if one fails to…
A young girl in the People’s Republic of China drops out of school so that she can care for her aging parents. She will stay with them and carry out many of the household chores while her brother is away getting an education. She wanted nothing more than to stay in school and perhaps go on to college, but this is a dream she may as well forget. Besides, if her parents can only afford to educate one of their children, why would it be her? Soon she will probably marry and move into another household with another pair of parents that need tended to anyways. What good would an education do her?…
Identifying who the school should regard as the parent is becoming more and more difficult in modern society. The text shed light on…
Even in modern day, many Chinese citizens still follow cultural and traditional expectations which emphasize the concepts of loyalty and responsibility for their nation and their family. Knowing this, China’s government promotes propaganda that morally enforces the people to consider their role in society by devoting themselves to being good citizens—they should follow what the government advises. Most of the propaganda the government makes encourage their citizens to have less children and at an older age to show dedication to their country. Examples of propaganda for the one-child policy include the slogans “Late, Long, and Few” and “Have Fewer, Better Children to Create Prosperity for the Next Generation” (Fitzpatrick and Rosenthal). Not only are the Chinese very loyal to their country, but they also have a strong tradition in preferring males over females. Based on their common beliefs, females tend to get married and move away with their spouse. Males are more valued in the aspects that they are the gender that abides filial piety; they are envisioned to carry on the family name and take care of their…
China was introduced to Confucianism around the year 500 B.C.E. Although Confucianism is not technically a religion, as there are no Confucian deities and no teachings about the afterlife, it was established as a way of life and became a set of guidelines within Chinese culture. One of the main beliefs of Confucian followers is that women have their “natural place”. Confucius was not degrading towards women, although he did believe that women were at the bottom of the patriarchal family structure. This was transformed into a belief that women have their place and that is to serve men and take care of those around her before herself. “Confucian doctrine, however, did not accord women a status equal to that of men, because women were generally regarded as unworthy or incapable of a literary education. In fact, the Confucian classics say little about women, which shows how little they rnattered in the scheme of Confucian values. Most Confucians accepted the subservience of women to men as natural and proper. In their view, failure to maintain a proper relationship between two such obviously unequal people as a husband and wife or brother and sister would result in social disharmony and a breakdown of all the rules of propriety.” (Halsall 1999) Women in the classical era of Chinese culture did not have a good education, if any, because they were forced to marry and bear children at a young age. They were…
The economy has hit an all time low and has caused two parent households and single parent households into the workforce. As a result of this the parents are looking for childcare centers for their children. The main concern of these parents is will the centers help with the behavior and development of their children.…
Chao, R. K. (1994). Beyond parental control and authoritarian parenting style: Understanding Chinese parenting through the cultural notion of training. Child Development, 65, 1111-1119.…
Jing-Mei’s mother demands absolute obedience from her daughter. When Jing-Mei objects to practise her piano, her mother chides her daughter that there are “only 2 kinds of daughter [and] only obedient daughter can live in [her] house” (Tan 142). The varying family values are that the mother wants her daughter to obey her with absolute obedience while the daughter believes in freedom and individuality. Thus, the daughters and mothers are in constant disagreement, which ultimately puts a strain on their relationship. To further understand the cause of their tensions as a result of the family values, Li Rui of ChildResearch.net concludes that “a Chinese parent greatly values his solitary child because of the "major investment" and "national resource" the child represents. Consequently, significant amounts of money and high expectations are focused upon the child in hopes that the child will excel in academics and other areas” (Jenkins). The mothers believe that because they have invested so much time and effort to develop their daughters’ potential, they expect their daughters to do their utmost to produce. However, the daughters value more on choice and individuality. Her identity is undermined because she is forced to abide by the Chinese culture. Eventually, constant feuding contributes to hostility and intolerance. Secondly, in the Chinese culture, sacrifice is necessary and expected. Chinese families tend to sacrifice everything for their love ones. Lindo Jong “once sacrificed [her] life to keep [her] parents’ promise [but] to [Waverly], promises mean nothing”. A daughter can be late for dinner “if she has a headache, [or] if she has a traffic jam, [or] if she wants to watch a favorite movie on TV” (Tan 49). The mother believes that promises and family time is the top priority over everything. However living in America…
According to Chua, Chinese mothers approach their children in a direct and a strict way which enables their children to excel in their eyes. She points out that Chinese mothers spend ten times as much time with their children working on academic activities. In contrast, the western mother invests more time with their children in sports activities and developing social skills. The author believes that there are three differences that makes the Chinese mother more superior than western mother. First, Chinese parents don’t focus on their kid's attention on inner self as western parents do.…
Since schools formalizing, families and school have worked together. During this time families maintained the central control of schools by hiring teachers and making the curriculum. There was a separation in the twentieth century between schools and families. As of today schools and families have a partnership and share responsibility of education for the students. Parental involvement has come a long way in the past years; it has a positive outlook on schooling. Teachers think important to have parental involvement. There are many pros and cons for parental involvement. Parental involvement in their children’s education provides the majority of students with the ability to excel in a classroom setting, even though some students may excel without parental guidance.…
Filial piety developed from Confucianism, it is an elements that affects Chinese culture and tradition. Filial piety also established a family system, which has influences on most Chinese families. Because from the cultural concept, most families has the social value for each family numbers, such as, man should be the center of the family, the children of the family should be always obey their parents. Women’s social status and family status was lower than men, because from the Confucianism ideology, women should stay in the family and support the families’ daily life.…
“Plight of the Little Emperors” was a very interesting book about youth in China and there expectations. Chinese parents push there kids as hard as they can to make sure they succeed in life. Some of these kids are pushed to know where and left in the cold. In this article, it explains one of the biggest social problems in China today. The three main topics in “Plight of the Little Emperors” are parent pressure in kids’ academics, college graduates and the lack of jobs, and how to escape the harsh world.…