You might ask trusted colleagues, mentors, or coaches to evaluate your reactions to and explanations for failures.
Pay close attention to the subtleties of how people respond to you in common workplace situations, and ask for formal or informal 360-degree feedback; you may be surprised at what you discover.
If you find that others often see failure where you don't or if you have a hard time pinpointing times when you've failed, you might be impunitive.
Although not everyone has the time, inclination, or resources to get the kind of coaching or counseling necessary to surface and address deep psychological issues with respect