Good Essays
Kendall Lawson
Mr. Kyle Taylor
English 1101 TR 12:30
October 4, 2012
Sex, Lies and Conversation
Communication comes in varieties in how to send and receive it. Things are often debated upon when it boils down to communication to the opposite sex. Women and men grow up understanding and realizing what communication is used for, how and when to use it. So which style of communication is wrong? Sex, Lies and Conversation by Deborah Tannen, talks about the differences between how the opposite sex converse. At the adolescent stage, the April issue of American Physiologist study says that children usually play with one another of the same gender. However the argument about their child environment could play a factor. For instance, if a male is raised around a family of females, their means and ways of interacting with a female and/or male may differ. Their building block to compose a strong relationship is built upon intimacy, therefore wanting to connect in a different method than the “average” male. As far as a marital couple, it depends on the person. It depends on what makes each individual comfortable. According to American Physiologist, males base their relationships off of things they do with one another. However, importunacy drives the wheel of the communication train. Importunacy dangles the rope because if something is important and you want to make your companion happy you will come to a compromise on what type of conversations arise in public and private.
The whole idea in a relationship is to make each other happy, and it takes good communication to have a healthy bond. For example, a women whose childhood was filled with abandonment, desires attention and have two options; Option number one is retreat or accept that he loves her and everyone is different. For the man he has many options depending on the women’s reaction to the way they converse.
If the female is one that shows affection weather than tell then unless the male is one outside of
Mr. Kyle Taylor
English 1101 TR 12:30
October 4, 2012
Sex, Lies and Conversation
Communication comes in varieties in how to send and receive it. Things are often debated upon when it boils down to communication to the opposite sex. Women and men grow up understanding and realizing what communication is used for, how and when to use it. So which style of communication is wrong? Sex, Lies and Conversation by Deborah Tannen, talks about the differences between how the opposite sex converse. At the adolescent stage, the April issue of American Physiologist study says that children usually play with one another of the same gender. However the argument about their child environment could play a factor. For instance, if a male is raised around a family of females, their means and ways of interacting with a female and/or male may differ. Their building block to compose a strong relationship is built upon intimacy, therefore wanting to connect in a different method than the “average” male. As far as a marital couple, it depends on the person. It depends on what makes each individual comfortable. According to American Physiologist, males base their relationships off of things they do with one another. However, importunacy drives the wheel of the communication train. Importunacy dangles the rope because if something is important and you want to make your companion happy you will come to a compromise on what type of conversations arise in public and private.
The whole idea in a relationship is to make each other happy, and it takes good communication to have a healthy bond. For example, a women whose childhood was filled with abandonment, desires attention and have two options; Option number one is retreat or accept that he loves her and everyone is different. For the man he has many options depending on the women’s reaction to the way they converse.
If the female is one that shows affection weather than tell then unless the male is one outside of
Cited: Tannen, Deborah.”Sex, Lies, and Conversation.” Patterns for College Writing: A Rhetorical Reader and Guide. 12th ed. Ed.Laurie G..Kirszner and Stephen R. Mandell. New York: Bedford, 2012. 423-429.Print.