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Grant Forgiveness
Grant Forgiveness Is Not Always Best
Apology and forgiveness is two sides of the same moral coin. They reflect the constructive ways the oppressor and the oppressed in an intractable conflict can come to grips with the pain and suffering the conflict produced. Another way to put this is Forgiving people is kind of like insanity. A definition of insanity “is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result “said by Albert Einstein. The reason forgiveness is like insanity is because we forgive people all the time and why should we if they continue to hurt us. We should not grant forgiveness to those who keep hurting us. My friend and I were play martial arts on the WII gaming system. I killed her avatar. That show that I a better fighter in the virtual world. My friend got furious with blind rage like a fire swept over her. She walk over to me and BAM, down I when. I got back up and start to begin a brawl. First with word us slashing our words at each other. Then it became more aggressive, fists flying all directions. I was scared like a child who was afraid of the dark or the monster in the closet. Well in reality we were the only monsters, or at least she was. An hour later I was bleeding head to toe from the claw marks and teeth imprints she had left. I had only bloody nose on her. I finally said “I am done; I am never going to forgive you. You don’t deserve forgiveness”. Her replies were “I wish I never met you”. That day she walks at of my life forever and I never been gladder, some people really don’t deserve to be forgiven. Another example of forgiveness is when a person does something horrible to you and it ends up ruining your life. Like in “Romeo and Juliet, where the Montague and Capulet parents hated each other and did not forgive each other for their past, their children (Romeo and Juliet) fall in to a deep true love. The parents forbade Romeo and Juliet from see each other or from being together. We all know how it

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