How to Get over an Ex

We have all...okay maybe not all, but many of us have been through a time in our life when you or your partner have realized it’s time to move on. It doesn’t really matter how long you have been with the person but break ups always sucks. It always seems like it is the end of the world. No matter what you do that person is in the back of your mind. Even things you see, smell, or even touch can remind you of what use to be. I can’t tell you how to get your ex completely erased out of your life but I do know of ways to keep him or her away from you living your life. Often, the hardest part about getting over a romantic partner is letting go of the person as an attachment figure which is a person who you rely on for support. Having others who we can trust to be there for us is one of our most basic needs as human beings. So a way you can detach from your partner is to train yourself not to rely on your ex by spending more time with other supportive people in your life instead. For example, research shows that parents, siblings, friends, and children can all make excellent attachment figures. So, visit your family. Have lunch with an old friend. Remind yourself that your ex is not the only person in your life who you can feel close to, and you’ll find yourself needing him or her less and less. It can also be helpful to get back into the dating world. This doesn’t necessarily mean jumping into a new relationship right away. It’s never good to rush love, and getting romantically involved with the wrong person can actually make you miss your ex more. But scouting out some new people, and maybe going on a fun date now and then, can really help to shift your romantic focus away from your ex and onto the new relationships that you can look forward to having when you’re ready for them. When you're down in the dumps over losing someone, it's easy to turn inward and avoid going out, meeting people, even working. But the more unmotivated you are, the easier it is to