Ideal Marriage Partner Analysis

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
Jalaluddin Rumi

As Salamaleikum,

I know the right partner will give me heaven on earth - is that you?

I'm looking for a soul mate who wants to grow old together whilst still having fun.

My ideal marriage partner is someone who is moderate in her outlook, relaxed, easy going and open minded. It is preferable that you have a balance between eastern and western values and lifestyle.

Ideally you will be an intellectual and be emotionally intelligent, not too serious, light hearted, easy going and witty. Just like me ;)

From a practical point of view, my business is based in Manchester and so if you are not local,
Someone with whom I can have intellectual conversations and someone who is looking to continue to develop herself both religiously and personally.

I am an eternal optimist, and I would prefer if you always saw the glass as half full. In my experience, optimistic people tend to be happier people :)
Health is very important, and so you need to be physically active on a regular basis and have an interest in well being.
And if you love the outdoors that would be perfect - hiking and long walks is how I try and spend my spare time as being with nature is very relaxing for me.

If we are blessed, I am looking for someone who would like a large family, and hence your age would be a factor. If you are in your thirties, I understand that gives a greater chance of healthy children rather than if you are in your forties.
Of course there is the age gap, but given that men mature more slowly, I would probably connect with you better on an emotional level than a younger man may.

There is no need to read further if the age difference will be an issue for you.
I have no qualms if you are divorced, and I won't judge you if you've had a previous relationship. I look forwards, not backwards. And I would consider all races and
I hope you break the stereotype of hijab wearing women - gym going, jogging, playing sports etc whilst maintaining your modesty is the type of lady I wish to marry.

I work in a high pressure job, and so I am looking for an understanding and supportive wife. A spouse who will devote herself to the marriage and become my garment as I will become her garment.

I would prefer if after marriage, rather than concentrating on your career, you focus on us as a couple and our future family. Financially, Alhumdillah, there would be no need for you to work full time at least, and if we have a large family, toddlers and babies need even more attention than a husband - it's a close call, but I reckon children win out in this regard :) The exception being when I have man-flu :)

I will respect and love you and your family but I expect that we would create our own independent family unit who would then be our future focus.

I would prefer if you were forward looking, rather than backward looking i.e. I want you to become the Queen of your own household, and no longer Daddy's