Interpersonal Communication
Using Effective Communication in Intimate Relationships
Speech 5
Santa Monica College
Using Effective Communication in Intimate Relationships
I. Introduction
A. Statement of Problem
Communication “can be understood as the practice of producing meanings, and the ways in which systems of meanings are negotiated by participants in a culture” (Schirato and Yell 1). Effective communication is imperative to creating healthy relationships in general. Specifically, what we will be addressing in this paper is how effective/ineffective communication can make or break intimate relationships. We are also analyzing effective/ineffective communication within arguments in intimate relationships, what the main issues are that contribute to conflict within these relationships, and what are the different outcomes in the dispute resolution process. The article we used to develop our questionnaire and ultimately the subject basis of this research paper is “19 Steps to Effective Communication”, taken from http://www.shaadimatchmaker.com/static/dating_tips/communication_in_relationship.do. We took these points, and created questions to analyze if our subjects were using the tactics described within the article to be effective in exercising their communication skills within their intimate relationships. This paper serves to analyze the results of our 15-question questionnaire.
Our paper serves to analyze how age and level of education affects different types of intimate relationships (i.e. casual dating, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged, and married). We correlate excuses/assumptions and whether they are submissive or outspoken; and how education level plays a part in these types of responses within arguments in intimate relationships. Throughout the article, we reference the original article, “19 Steps to Effective Communication”, seeking to determine if adhering to the “Steps” is indeed effective in achieving open and healthy intimate relationships, and how
Speech 5
Santa Monica College
Using Effective Communication in Intimate Relationships
I. Introduction
A. Statement of Problem
Communication “can be understood as the practice of producing meanings, and the ways in which systems of meanings are negotiated by participants in a culture” (Schirato and Yell 1). Effective communication is imperative to creating healthy relationships in general. Specifically, what we will be addressing in this paper is how effective/ineffective communication can make or break intimate relationships. We are also analyzing effective/ineffective communication within arguments in intimate relationships, what the main issues are that contribute to conflict within these relationships, and what are the different outcomes in the dispute resolution process. The article we used to develop our questionnaire and ultimately the subject basis of this research paper is “19 Steps to Effective Communication”, taken from http://www.shaadimatchmaker.com/static/dating_tips/communication_in_relationship.do. We took these points, and created questions to analyze if our subjects were using the tactics described within the article to be effective in exercising their communication skills within their intimate relationships. This paper serves to analyze the results of our 15-question questionnaire.
Our paper serves to analyze how age and level of education affects different types of intimate relationships (i.e. casual dating, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged, and married). We correlate excuses/assumptions and whether they are submissive or outspoken; and how education level plays a part in these types of responses within arguments in intimate relationships. Throughout the article, we reference the original article, “19 Steps to Effective Communication”, seeking to determine if adhering to the “Steps” is indeed effective in achieving open and healthy intimate relationships, and how
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