Interpersonal Communication In Relationships
Communications in a Relationship
Tina Auzenne
Interpersonal Communication
Robert Lindquist
May 14, 2012
Dear Donnie and Melissa, Congratulations on your recent engagement! I just wanted to let you know how honored I am that you are asking me for advice on your relationship based on the information I have learned in my Interpersonal Communication course. To start I just want to inform you that nobody is a perfect communicator all the time. But you can work to become trying a few of these tips I am about to give you. Effective communication patterns and skills are important characteristics of a good relationship. Marriage comes with many challenges, it is great that you seeking advice for effective using impersonal communication within …show more content…
But we rarely stop to think about why that is, or even what it really means. The psychological term for the ability to love oneself is self-esteem (Real, 2007). Together, your self-concept and self-image make up your self-esteem. Your self-esteem is how you emotionally feel about yourself as a result of what you believe about your life and experiences. A good self-image raises your self-esteem; a poor self-image will often results in poor self-esteem, lack of confidence, and insecurity (Sole 2011). Self-esteem comes from the inside out. Thinking otherwise is a …show more content…
You have stopped talking for a moment, but your head is still swirling with all the things that you want to say, so you are not really hearing what is being said. To make sure that you heard the other person you can rephrase what a person just say to you (Yount, 2010). This might upset your partner if you do it too much, or do it in a tone that suggests you are mocking rather than trying to seriously listen. So use this technique every so often, and let your partner know why you are doing it if they ask- “ Sometime I do not think I am getting what you are telling me , and doing this lets me slow my mind down a bit and really try and hear what you are saying.” When listening to someone try putting yourself in their shoes, this will be called empathic listening. When you do this you are make a deliberate attempt to connect with another person and to put yourself in his or her shoes or provide a supportive listening environment (Sole 2011). When someone comes at you with a criticism, it is easy to feel like they are wrong, and get defensive. While criticism is hard to hear, and often exaggerated or colored by the other person’s emotion, it is important to listen to the other person’s pain and respond with empathy for their feeling. Also, look for what is true in what they are saying; they can be valuable information for
Tina Auzenne
Interpersonal Communication
Robert Lindquist
May 14, 2012
Dear Donnie and Melissa, Congratulations on your recent engagement! I just wanted to let you know how honored I am that you are asking me for advice on your relationship based on the information I have learned in my Interpersonal Communication course. To start I just want to inform you that nobody is a perfect communicator all the time. But you can work to become trying a few of these tips I am about to give you. Effective communication patterns and skills are important characteristics of a good relationship. Marriage comes with many challenges, it is great that you seeking advice for effective using impersonal communication within …show more content…
But we rarely stop to think about why that is, or even what it really means. The psychological term for the ability to love oneself is self-esteem (Real, 2007). Together, your self-concept and self-image make up your self-esteem. Your self-esteem is how you emotionally feel about yourself as a result of what you believe about your life and experiences. A good self-image raises your self-esteem; a poor self-image will often results in poor self-esteem, lack of confidence, and insecurity (Sole 2011). Self-esteem comes from the inside out. Thinking otherwise is a …show more content…
You have stopped talking for a moment, but your head is still swirling with all the things that you want to say, so you are not really hearing what is being said. To make sure that you heard the other person you can rephrase what a person just say to you (Yount, 2010). This might upset your partner if you do it too much, or do it in a tone that suggests you are mocking rather than trying to seriously listen. So use this technique every so often, and let your partner know why you are doing it if they ask- “ Sometime I do not think I am getting what you are telling me , and doing this lets me slow my mind down a bit and really try and hear what you are saying.” When listening to someone try putting yourself in their shoes, this will be called empathic listening. When you do this you are make a deliberate attempt to connect with another person and to put yourself in his or her shoes or provide a supportive listening environment (Sole 2011). When someone comes at you with a criticism, it is easy to feel like they are wrong, and get defensive. While criticism is hard to hear, and often exaggerated or colored by the other person’s emotion, it is important to listen to the other person’s pain and respond with empathy for their feeling. Also, look for what is true in what they are saying; they can be valuable information for