Listening For Couples Analysis
Listening For Couples
Listening For Couples by Matthew McKay, Martha Davis and Patrick Fanning. Topic found in chapter one listening, on page 23. In a book name “Messages, The Communication skills book”. I found this sections of the book while reading chapter one in Messages. On page twenty- three, its shortly explains some useful listening skills for couples. There’s a process called reciprocal communication, provides a structure in which you can really hear each other. when you’re discussing a topic with your partner, take turns being the speaker and the listener, switching places after five minutes. When it’s you're turn to be the speaker, there are simple examples of being a better speaker. Explain your point of view briefly and succinctly.
Avoid blaming and name-calling. Don't accuse and don’t focus on your partner’s failings. Talk in terms of yourself and your experience. Focus on what you want and what you feel. When it’s your turn to be the listener. Give your full attention so that you can really understand your partner’s feelings , opinions, and needs. Don't disagree, argue or correct anything your partner says. You can ask questions to clarify an issue but not to debate and make counterpoints. After the speaker is done describing his or her side of the issue, the listener summarizes, using paraphrasing skills. If the listener leaves out something important, or the listener has been misunderstood, the speaker can clarify and explain until he or she feels completely heard. This topic on listening for couples can relate to interpersonal communication studies, its very important to learn to be a good listener specially for anyone in a relationship. This topic explains some simple skills on how to be a good speaker and listener. They're really easy to understand and it’s a part of our listening lecture in class. I been in relationships when its been hard to be heard or misunderstood or vice versa. So this topic was very beneficial for me and hope to share it in my future relationships.
Listening For Couples by Matthew McKay, Martha Davis and Patrick Fanning. Topic found in chapter one listening, on page 23. In a book name “Messages, The Communication skills book”. I found this sections of the book while reading chapter one in Messages. On page twenty- three, its shortly explains some useful listening skills for couples. There’s a process called reciprocal communication, provides a structure in which you can really hear each other. when you’re discussing a topic with your partner, take turns being the speaker and the listener, switching places after five minutes. When it’s you're turn to be the speaker, there are simple examples of being a better speaker. Explain your point of view briefly and succinctly.
Avoid blaming and name-calling. Don't accuse and don’t focus on your partner’s failings. Talk in terms of yourself and your experience. Focus on what you want and what you feel. When it’s your turn to be the listener. Give your full attention so that you can really understand your partner’s feelings , opinions, and needs. Don't disagree, argue or correct anything your partner says. You can ask questions to clarify an issue but not to debate and make counterpoints. After the speaker is done describing his or her side of the issue, the listener summarizes, using paraphrasing skills. If the listener leaves out something important, or the listener has been misunderstood, the speaker can clarify and explain until he or she feels completely heard. This topic on listening for couples can relate to interpersonal communication studies, its very important to learn to be a good listener specially for anyone in a relationship. This topic explains some simple skills on how to be a good speaker and listener. They're really easy to understand and it’s a part of our listening lecture in class. I been in relationships when its been hard to be heard or misunderstood or vice versa. So this topic was very beneficial for me and hope to share it in my future relationships.