Looking Out Looking In Summary

Chapter 1 of Looking Out, Looking In by Adler & Proctor, highlights some of the communication misconceptions that we are all guilty of falling prey to at one time or another. One of these misconceptions, that excess communication is not always better, was brought to my attention on page 18 of Chapter 1 in Looking Out Looking In. This also happens to be the communication misconception that I most often fall prey to.
In order to understand why I find myself over communicating I have to take a look at the other communication misconceptions presented in Chapter 1. I believe these communication misconceptions to be highly interrelated. Chapter 1 of Looking Out, Looking In lists the other misconceptions under Successful Communication Doesn’t Always Involve Shared Understanding and Meanings Are Not In Words. The main reason why I over-communicate is that I hope to see both parties in agreement by the end of the discussion.
19). One example of this occurred the other day, when my partner and I were having a discussion. I couldn’t accept that we wouldn’t see eye to eye on an idea and I continued to push the discussion beyond what was necessary, primarily because I kept attempting to get him to agree with me. This only resulted in my partner feeling more and more frustrated until I apologized and ended the discussion. The comment, “More and more negative communication merely leads to more and more negative results.” (Adler & Proctor, 2017 pg. 18), couldn’t be truer to what I