My Identity Research Paper

Keh Keh
Mr. Aaron Smith
10532-040
January, 31, 2012 Identity Essay My identity achievement can be seen in terms of distinct categories. These include my early childhood, early teenage years, and early adulthood. Someone who influenced my identity was my mother who was a strong and healthy woman when I was a child. She went through a very hard life with me, but she never said a word about wanting to give up because of her financial situation. My mom said even though she has to work hard, she will never give up on anything she has no matter how difficult it might be. For example, when my mom was pregnant and had to carry me for nine months. When I was a baby I did not know
my right hand from my left hand. When I became a teenager, and laterwhen I become adult, my mother always worried about me. My mother was the perfect wife for my father and mother for me. Looking back on my childhood, I can remember a time when my mom told me about being she was pregnant with me.
My mother was very sick, and she didn’t think she could make it through because of the health problems and issues she had. My mother told me that during her pregnancy she was in the jungle in the country of Burma, and which it is in Southeast Asia. There was no health care or medicine to help her during the whole pregnancy. I was very depressed for her when I heard the things my mom told me. I was lucky to be born a healthy baby. I was born during the month of April when all the flowers and trees show their beauty, and my mom named me after the flower of the cliffs. In the jungle of Burma there were a lot of cliffs, mountains and rivers. Her difficult pregnancy ended joyously with my springtime
birth. In the early years of my life, I remember a time when I was five years old. I was sitting and playing with my brothers and sisters for about three hours, when the time came for my mom to call us to dinner. I was so happy that I stood up very fast, but I wasn’t able to stand up because in my one leg because the muscle was tight. I tried again and that time the pain went through my whole body, and I cried out loud. My mom came running very fast to grab me, and had a worried look on her face. My mom told me that I was in the cold too long and one muscle was dead. Her face was full of tears and hopelessness for me because she was afraid I wouldn’t be able to walk with in my future. My whole family was worried about me because they thought when I grew up I wouldn’t able to work. My mother was the one who worried about me the most and tried to find medicine to help me. After about five years, the medicine helped, and I got much better, and my mom was so happy about it. Sometimes I made my mom more worry again when I became a teenager because I did not pay attention as much as when I was a baby. I did whatever I wanted to do. Which hurt my mom and worried her? She took her time to try to teach me as much as she could. She never let me have much free time. When I went to school she prepared lessons, and when I came back from school she was ready to teach me a lesson. I learned so much from her. She taught me time management, personal respect, and a good attitude. She didn’t want to see me having problems like other teenagers, such as drinking and wasting time. Because of her I have become a valuable person. I went to school and I studied my subject very hard I tried to be like my mom never gives up. Now my 21st birthday is approaching, and I know now that I am becoming an adult, but my mom still worries about me.
She thinks that I might choose a wrong person to marry, but I have not decided to married yet. I am still young and live with my mom and I still in school. My mom she doesn’t look at me the way she looked at me in the past; she looks to my future. She takes the time to teach me about choosing a boyfriend and planning for life in the future. She gives me lessons that never end. She takes a long periods time to teaching me about personal life and things that I need to know. She has knowledge about the difference between a good and a bad life. She taught me that a good person will be someone who accepts other people and learns lessons. These people like to try the hard thing and stay away from the easy thing; they also are patient when they try the hard things. She is the one who influences to try the hard thing, and now I have become a person who likes to try only hard things. What do I mean by I became a hard person? It means I am not the kind of person who gives up easily, and I will to
do. Finally, I have made a decision on where to go with my life. After my mom taught me in which I explored many situations. The things that had the most impact on my identity are my mother and my family. My mother is very important to me, and that’s how I know she has a big part in shaping my identity. I have learned a lot of interesting and fun lessons with my mother; I also think that having fun can shape my identity. I realized that graduating in high school in four years would not be possible after my teenager years.. The only thing that would bring back my motivation would be a change of going to college and having a career. When I started college after high school, my mind changed several times while trying to come-up with a career decision. The reason that I include this piece of knowledge that my mom gave me in this essay is because this is what ties my mother to my personality and my emotions. The gift that my mother gave to me makes me look deep inside of me every time I use it. The gift is a lessons that my mom gave me. It has also brought me great luck and happiness and I now associate all these emotions with my mother. It is a physical piece that links my soul with my mother’s. After all my mom has done for me, I realized many things about myself that have stemmed from this powerful relationship that I have developed with my mother. It has given me a lot of confidence and has helped my self-esteem in many situations. I am and forever shall be grateful to my mother for treating me so well, and to influencing and for providing me with the positive personality that I have today.