Personal Narrative: Dealing With Death
As one can see the personal losses I have chosen, do not deal with death. This is due to the fact that I have not been expose to any death that I have had a personal connection with. In all three cases, I have coped fairly well, at the same time it was not an overnight process. It has been a personal journey to overcome my situation, I did not let these events beat me. I believe this made me into the person I am now. There is not one thing or person that helped me cope with these events. It was a collection of people that helped me, along with being mentally strong. My family is not the closest family, but when someone is hurting: physically, mentally, emotionally we unite and band together to support the person hurting through their crisis.
Even though I did not know about the Five V’s of treating grief and loss at the time of my loss and grief, I believe this is the best way to cope. For me I never had to deal with two continuously losses, but I believe that one can deal with one loss at a time. If you try and deal with two losses at once then they could possibly intermix and then you would have a more difficult time to deal with the losses. The biggest I used for one of my losses is I kept on asking why. Why did he leave us? After multiple emotional conversations, my family said it was not anything I could have done. After realizing this I started the next step of coping with my loss.
My background growing up was not very pretty living in the poverty line. So, I never had materialistic possessions, therefore my family instilled in my sibling and myself; that not to care about how people think of you. You should carry a persona that produces confidence and have the attitude that can beat any obstacle. So, one thing I learned at a very young age was to be resonant. I grew up in the Roman Catholic church, but I never practice so perhaps if I did I would have cope different.
I have not experience all loss and grief in all aspects, I believe the losses I have experienced can be the helpful to my potential clients. I would like to have clientele of people with a similar background as myself. So, I can have a stronger connection and have a better understanding of their situation. My experience would never hinder my clientele, if anything I would rather try and make it a strength. The strength of not letting any obstacle beat me or them.
This only dilemma I can see myself struggling to help would fall under disenfranchised grief. I believe that sexual assault cases are the most difficult to overcome. For the patient does not want to relive those experience, but it is critical for them to face them. My potential challenge is to continue pushing them so they can cope and eventually overcome that situation. I personally do not have the challenge with that. I do have a challenge emotionally pushing them to their limits.
I would just have to learn on how to navigate through certain cases and find an equal ground on being understanding while trying to drive the client to overcome her grief. To become the best social worker on can be, I believe that you have to search for all avenues to benefit your client. If this means to connect her to resources like: certain hotlines, focus groups, spiritual advisors, or even religious advisors.
Even though I did not know about the Five V’s of treating grief and loss at the time of my loss and grief, I believe this is the best way to cope. For me I never had to deal with two continuously losses, but I believe that one can deal with one loss at a time. If you try and deal with two losses at once then they could possibly intermix and then you would have a more difficult time to deal with the losses. The biggest I used for one of my losses is I kept on asking why. Why did he leave us? After multiple emotional conversations, my family said it was not anything I could have done. After realizing this I started the next step of coping with my loss.
My background growing up was not very pretty living in the poverty line. So, I never had materialistic possessions, therefore my family instilled in my sibling and myself; that not to care about how people think of you. You should carry a persona that produces confidence and have the attitude that can beat any obstacle. So, one thing I learned at a very young age was to be resonant. I grew up in the Roman Catholic church, but I never practice so perhaps if I did I would have cope different.
I have not experience all loss and grief in all aspects, I believe the losses I have experienced can be the helpful to my potential clients. I would like to have clientele of people with a similar background as myself. So, I can have a stronger connection and have a better understanding of their situation. My experience would never hinder my clientele, if anything I would rather try and make it a strength. The strength of not letting any obstacle beat me or them.
This only dilemma I can see myself struggling to help would fall under disenfranchised grief. I believe that sexual assault cases are the most difficult to overcome. For the patient does not want to relive those experience, but it is critical for them to face them. My potential challenge is to continue pushing them so they can cope and eventually overcome that situation. I personally do not have the challenge with that. I do have a challenge emotionally pushing them to their limits.
I would just have to learn on how to navigate through certain cases and find an equal ground on being understanding while trying to drive the client to overcome her grief. To become the best social worker on can be, I believe that you have to search for all avenues to benefit your client. If this means to connect her to resources like: certain hotlines, focus groups, spiritual advisors, or even religious advisors.