Psychological Abuse In Fifty Shades Of Grey
In Fifty Shades of Grey, a virulent, sexy man heavily involved in the BDSM lifestyle invites a young, inexperienced woman into a submissive relationship; except, he falls in love with her shattering the boundaries of their contractual relationship. While that may sound all “happily ever after,” Mr. Grey employs emotional manipulation, physical manipulation and abuse, and psychological manipulation to gain what he wants—Anastasia; meanwhile, Anastasia reacts out of her immaturity and naiveté using a sexual relationship to get what she wants—Mr. Grey. Neither enters into a formal BDSM contract with healthy, educated, interest in the lifestyle nor do they enter into a relationship with healthy conflict resolution. Instead, they model intimate
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Ultimately, Fifty Shades of Grey irresponsibly promotes intimate partner violence as sexy, enjoyable, and manageable with happy outcomes despite research and history proving violence destroys people and …show more content…
Those behaviors are exemplified in Fifty Shades of Grey. Christian Grey is the epitome of coercive control; by example, he stalked Anastasia via secret GPS location on the phone he insisted she carry, he followed her to her mother’s without her knowledge, he withheld affection until she gave in, and he isolated her from her friends and family with physical, sexual and emotional manipulation. Dejectedly, she walked away, and he related his own abuse to emotionally sway her to return. In an effort to control her further, he purchases Anastasia’s workplace which asserts economic control. Monopolization ensures he knows where and with who she is, and he is the first and only thing (bad or good) that she is able to focus on. The car she drives, the job she holds, the place she lives, the phone she carries, and so much more are all centered on him. When she tries to extricate herself, he threatens her entire existence until she is afraid to even speak to someone without fear of upsetting him. Mr. Grey tells Anastasia she has “no place to run. I would find you. I can track your cell phone—remember?” (Taylor-Wood, Luca, James, Brunetti, and Marcel , 2015). His need for power and control and her lack of self-esteem combine explosively into a power-packed relationship of
Ultimately, Fifty Shades of Grey irresponsibly promotes intimate partner violence as sexy, enjoyable, and manageable with happy outcomes despite research and history proving violence destroys people and …show more content…
Those behaviors are exemplified in Fifty Shades of Grey. Christian Grey is the epitome of coercive control; by example, he stalked Anastasia via secret GPS location on the phone he insisted she carry, he followed her to her mother’s without her knowledge, he withheld affection until she gave in, and he isolated her from her friends and family with physical, sexual and emotional manipulation. Dejectedly, she walked away, and he related his own abuse to emotionally sway her to return. In an effort to control her further, he purchases Anastasia’s workplace which asserts economic control. Monopolization ensures he knows where and with who she is, and he is the first and only thing (bad or good) that she is able to focus on. The car she drives, the job she holds, the place she lives, the phone she carries, and so much more are all centered on him. When she tries to extricate herself, he threatens her entire existence until she is afraid to even speak to someone without fear of upsetting him. Mr. Grey tells Anastasia she has “no place to run. I would find you. I can track your cell phone—remember?” (Taylor-Wood, Luca, James, Brunetti, and Marcel , 2015). His need for power and control and her lack of self-esteem combine explosively into a power-packed relationship of