Reflection Paper
The results of the Enneagram provided valuable insight to approaching the first reflective paper. Being a type three achiever/performer I wanted to immediately leave class on Saturday and work on the reflective paper through completion until I read the statement “The most profitable work I can do is to take time to relax and to grow” provided from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee
Baren and Elizabeth Wagele. Thinking about this statement I realized that not only did I need to take time to actually reflect, but I also needed to utilize the tools and experiences of the first weekend for some introspection if I actually expected a ‘growth/profitable’ return on my invested time.
Saturday evening I could feel the physiological tension mounting in my shoulders as I was actually stressing about not allowing myself to work on the paper and immediately realized I was disintegrating toward the negative side of the nines unable to focus, indecisive, and passive-aggressive with my family. I had originally planned to exercise Saturday evening but eventually just resigned for the day not able to overcome the pressure of a three to five page paper hanging over my head. Sunday morning my wife commented about hoping I was in a better mood and I realized this was my opportunity to integrate towards the positive side of six for an attempt at becoming a healthy three at least for the day.
Understanding that this would require additional effort and focus, I retrieved the class materials to review the uphill challenge. The first thing staring back at me on the page was “Spend more time with, and become committed to, family and friends” from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baren and
Elizabeth Wagele. I shared the information about type threes, integration, disintegration, and practical suggestions for type threes with my wife during which time I noticed a lot of head nods and a few chuckles. We decided to make a list of things to do for the day as a family
Baren and Elizabeth Wagele. Thinking about this statement I realized that not only did I need to take time to actually reflect, but I also needed to utilize the tools and experiences of the first weekend for some introspection if I actually expected a ‘growth/profitable’ return on my invested time.
Saturday evening I could feel the physiological tension mounting in my shoulders as I was actually stressing about not allowing myself to work on the paper and immediately realized I was disintegrating toward the negative side of the nines unable to focus, indecisive, and passive-aggressive with my family. I had originally planned to exercise Saturday evening but eventually just resigned for the day not able to overcome the pressure of a three to five page paper hanging over my head. Sunday morning my wife commented about hoping I was in a better mood and I realized this was my opportunity to integrate towards the positive side of six for an attempt at becoming a healthy three at least for the day.
Understanding that this would require additional effort and focus, I retrieved the class materials to review the uphill challenge. The first thing staring back at me on the page was “Spend more time with, and become committed to, family and friends” from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baren and
Elizabeth Wagele. I shared the information about type threes, integration, disintegration, and practical suggestions for type threes with my wife during which time I noticed a lot of head nods and a few chuckles. We decided to make a list of things to do for the day as a family