personality in the children. Specifically, the environment of intolerance that they grow up in teaches them that it is acceptable to hate. Hatred is learned, not inherent. Even the servants of the house are involved in the hostile setting of the household. "A dog of that house shall move me to stand." (I, i, 12) This displays the elevation of aggression that exists among the members of each house. This quote was even said by a mere servant of the Capulet family. It explains how the antagonism between the Capulets and Montagues has gotten so bad that the smallest things could result in a fight. Besides the hatred, the children are taught feelings of superiority over members of the opposite household. This air of preeminence adds to the frequent exchange of insults that members of each family often share. The fights that break out due to such defamation are what lead to the deaths of Mercutio, Tybalt, Paris, and later to the deaths of Romeo, and Juliet. Such heavy losses all originate from the initial superiority and hatred that surrounds the environment created by the children's parents. The second idea that caused children of the Capulet and Montague households to suffer is the parent's disregard of feelings.
A perfect example of this is Juliet's arranged marriage to Count Paris. Juliet was only thirteen years old, yet her parents were making major adult decisions for her to satisfy their own need. Although Juliet was still mourning the loss of her loved cousin, Tybalt, Capulet and Lady Capulet disregarded her feelings and moved on by planning her marriage to Paris the same day Tybalt is killed by Romeo. " much of grief shows still some want of wit." (III, v, 76) This is Juliet's own mother telling her that her mourning is stupid. A mother who truly cares for her daughter's well-being would help her get through the tragic death of Tybalt and try to lighten her grief. In response to Juliet's refusal to marry Paris, Lady Capulet once again manifests a care for herself over her weeping daughter. "I would the fool were married to her grave." (III, v, 145) This is, not only foreshadowing to Juliet's eventual suicide, but also a concern for her family name over her daughter's wishes. Capulet, Juliet's father, shows that his attitude is no better than his wife's. He becomes enraged and calls her such words as "green-sickness carrion", "baggage", "disobedient wretch", and "hilding." (III, v, 161-175) Such insults and harsh words show that Capulet is much more concerned with how he will be viewed by Paris and Paris's kinsman, Prince Escalus of Verona. …show more content…
This is not only selfish but also cruel and callous to young Juliet. A second example of such disregard is the banishment of Romeo Montague. The Capulets vehemently demanded Romeo's execution after he killed their cousin, Tybalt. On the surface, it may seem that they are seriously outraged at the death of their kin. Later, however, when the Capulets brush off the death while talking to Juliet, it is obvious that it was not the true cause of their fervent demands of the Prince. The crime is not exactly what they wanted punished; it was that Romeo was of their rival's household. They completely disregarded the impact on Romeo's family, and, in fact, it is this punishment that causes Lady Montague to kill herself out of grief. This display of indifference towards their child's feelings clearly shows that the Capulets care more for their self-image than the well being of their child. Finally, the parents use their children as puppets.
The basic origin of the feud between the families is a rivalry for power. Their parents use them to gain respect from the Prince, a powerful source of authority, despite whatever complaints the children may have. It is the same example of the disregard of feelings that portrays the parents as being very narcissistic. The marriage to Paris was made for disingenuous motives. Paris may have proclaimed his love' for Juliet, but it was a very superficial liking, referring only to her beauty as opposed to the internal traits that Romeo refers to. However, because Paris was a relative of Prince Escalus, the Capulets were blinded by their greed for power. This arranged marriage shows that the Capulets will not let their child grow through self-realization; they attempt to control decisions and try to be in command of every aspect of their child's life. Besides controlling decisions, the parents battle for power through their children's physical fights. Why don't they try and stop their children from fighting, even when the Prince threatens both houses with punishment of death? It is because they want control so badly that they will use their own children to physically fight each other. The parents are so egocentric and greedy that they are almost living through their children's
actions. The worst mistake made by the Capulet and Montague parents is doing nothing to halt the feud that was long overdue to be resolved. Family feuds are of the greatest consequences. Emotions are elevated to a level beyond normal disagreements after the initial feud gets buried in the drama that surrounds the ongoing dispute. This was the base cause for every other mistake they made as well as the consequences that resulted from them. For one, they try and control every single aspect of their child's life. This usually results in the same thing: rebellion. Romeo and Juliet rebelled by meeting in secret together for the sake of their love for each other. They held onto their unconditional love despite the continuing family saga of hatred between both families. Unfortunately, it took those last two deaths for the realization to set in for the parents. Memorializing the deaths, the families plan on erecting massive statues in honor of the children. The symbolism of the cold gold figures representing the deceased children mirrors the distorted values of the families throughout the play.