Self Disclosure

To disclose or not to disclose?, That question usually comes when you start a new relationship with a friend, a boy friend, a new job or any new relationship, but disclosing can also happen with people we have known for a long time or not. Scholars define self-disclosure as sharing information with others that they would not normally know or discover, but I feel like each person has his or her own way of defining what self closure is. To me, self disclosure is letting myself go and trusting the person I am disclosing to, it involves risk and vulnerability on my part sharing important information to someone. Therefore I go back to the question I posed before, do I trust this person or not, do I love this person to feel my vulnerability, do I want to have the other person know my inner most secrets, should I really risk it or not?.

The way I feel about self disclosure, is that it is a way of gaining information about another person, it is one way to know about how another person thinks and feels. When it comes to my friends, If they are new friends and I have known them for a short time i don’t really want them to disclose so much information about themselves to me since I don’t know them very well. I feel like once they disclose something to me It is kind of implied that I have to also disclose something to them which I do not really want to do. When it comes to my family in general I find they are some members of my family that I would not trust very well to share personal information to them, If that family member is someone that I trust and have known for a very long time Its very easy for me to share information with them. Since I always feel like disclosing is a weakness sometimes, I mainly feel very comfortable disclosing more to my mother, since disclosing dependson trust and it does help and make me feel better about myself and my relationship and it helps me and my mother understand each other more When it comes to my relationship with my boyfriend I